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This post was inspired by a post I saw earlier this week (https://www.thefemaledatingstrategy.com/forum/ask-the-admin/women-overestimate-edit-underestimate-how-much-men-and-boys-actually-break-up-with-us).
There was lively discussion/controversy in the comments, which made me want to share my personal observations of men over age 25.
I'm in my late 30s and have lived in the U.S. nearly all my life. I've dated men in their 20s, 30s, and 40s in several major cities. My observation is that almost all men above age 30 are walking red flags.
Yes, most men of ALL ages are red flags, but the proportion of bad men in their 30s and 40s seems to be higher than the proportion of bad men in their 20s.
For example (and these are purely hypothetical numbers), 90% of men in their 20s are scrotes, 99% of men in their 30s are scrotes, and 99.9% of men in their 40s are scrotes.
In my experience, this trend does not apply to women.
Assuming we date age-appropriate men, this means finding an HVM in our 20s is hard, finding an HVM in our 30s is very hard, and finding an HVM in our 40s is basically impossible.
Society tells women to marry young, presumably because women lose their "youth", "beauty", "agreeability", etc., after a certain age and become unappealing to men. I disagree with this premise.
I think the real reason a marriage-minded* woman would benefit from marrying at a younger age is that the quantity of HVM drops precipitously after age 30. The problem is not us (women)--it's them (men).
I think this is the brutal reality of heterosexual dating in the U.S.
What are your thoughts? Feel free to agree or disagree.
*If you're WGTOW or not interested in getting married to a man, then this statement does not apply to you.
The pool of single men in my country is pretty much the same. HVM wouldn't have a hard time finding a woman to marry in 20s, so single men over 30 are usually LV leftovers. As the age goes up, the amount of divorced men and single dads looking for nanny, nurse and purse in the dating pool will increase too.
It's not the same for women because HVM is so fucking rare. Our options are either settle with a crusty dick or staying single.
You shared my post!! <3
But, yeah, I'd love to expand on this. A lot of women are trying to make dating a quantity over quality game, but if dudes wanted lifelong love, then why are they pumping and dumping us in high school and college?
Easy to say that the girls and women are the ones doing the breaking up, but I feel like it's a lot like marriage.
Who is REALLY breaking up with whom?
I just turned 30, btw. I can get dates easy, but the quality is never well rounded. My ultimate goal is to find a guy who actually has always wanted to find "the one" and be loyal, and marry if he's legit, but I'd rather die than marry lukewarm user types who marry/pumped and dump with a ring for convenience sake.
I'm 34...so I'm screwed lol...unless I get really lucky and find a good man.
Not to mention, alot of them have had their brains fried by porn.
I agree! I think it's the bitterness ngl. The men I'm dating now are usually one to two years older than me. They've maybe had one or two past relationships and, like me, are still hopeful about finding a woman to settle down and marry. But after 35 when they've hit their "peak" 🙄 they suddenly realize when they were actually hot and had a full head of hair was their peak and become super bitter. Like, I had another flirtation today where I was jamming out in my car and the car next to me was on the same radio station. He got excited as we sang together and at each other and asked for my number. I rejected him and he just rolled up his window and then the light turned green and that was that. But rejecting the older men? Whew. I get ranted at, the word "females" gets thrown around a bunch, and they get aggressive and in my face. Last year I had THREE sexual harassment cases filed ALL of them from men 45+ because these dudes are horrible. Like, at least the men in their 20's can take rejection and move on, these old dudes are just out here collecting cases.