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Of course. I wrote a post a while back about this guy who didn't walk me to my car at midnight and y'all were so correct. Since writing that post, I've been holding back a lot on reaching out, trying to focus on my own goals, and building up my female friendships. I'm very glad that I've been spending time towards those things. However, I would be lying if I said that I didn't still want this guy to like me. (It was the British man propaganda and romance media!!!) I would catch myself thinking of him or wanting to go out of my way to be noticed/conform to what I think he would like. Anyways, nothing too big, and I would try to follow those thoughts with thinking about something I can do for myself too. I'm a work in progress guys.
Yesterday, a girl I'm friends with in one of the classes he's in was talking to me and mentioned offhandedly that's he was cute. Immediately, I caught myself wanting to "have" him. Definitely the inner pick-me...
Today, this guy intentionally doesn't sit next to me even though we've been friendly and sitting next to each other. And, after class it seemed like he did not want to speak to me (I took a moment to speak with another friend outside and he reluctantly joined the conversation.) This is probably a good thing. Rationally, I'm over it, but emotionally, I am taking some time. I think I feel disappointed. Anyways, what advice do y'all have for me to really get this guy out of my head.
Good job, sis. You’re doing the right thing! And honestly, being this aware of your thoughts and feelings and holding yourself back are great steps towards getting that Queen mindset. I’d also low-key warn that girl about how he may be cute, but he doesn’t actually care enough to walk women to their cars at midnight. He’s no gentleman. I personally give men really mean nicknames like “pornsick” “limp dick” “ogre” “dahmer” etc etc in my phone and to my friends when the guy is a LVM. I give sweet nicknames to guys who are HV tho. In person I use their actual names.
A long time ago I fell HARD for my married boss (I know I know, but his JAWLINE!), so I held a funeral for him in my head and every time I thought about him I rewrote his "obituary" lmao
I developed a new crush recently. I reminded myself that having one does not benefit me, and this guy is on no way ready to have a relationship. I don't know whether he's HV or LV because we only just met. So I draw the boundary internally: I can enjoy knowing that men haven't crushed my soul yet and I still have feelings, but it won't go any further. I won't take it any further, despite what my hormones say. They don't know best.
Rationally, I'm over it, but emotionally, I am taking some time.
Story of my life 🙃
Well, the only to go is to go through. Gotta feel your feelings, accept, process and move on. Stay busy
British you say? Well, you may have dodged a stinky surprise. I have dated more than one British man and without fail, they NEVER cleaned under their foreskins. The stink was ungodly, and the sex was poor. British men are, more often than not, odd. Weird about intimacy, cheapskates, and dirty dick. You can do better.
If he wanted to text you/sit next to you - he would! He's looking for someone to chase him, or do 50/50 with, so later his 50 becomes 0 and he can keep using her 50 for sex and company.. He's not looking for serious gf, don't feel bad.