Y'all--- i just got asked on a date, what do I do?

I would tone down that excitement. He should be the one excited to see you, because you are the prize!!

Don’t tell him anything, just let a friend or a family member know where you are and with who plus from what time to what time you will be with him. Make sure it’s a public place and that he planned for dinner all by himself, confirmed timing with you as well in advance. Keep your date to a maximum of 1.5 hours.

Don’t tell too much personal info about yourself. Be who you are and let him spill the beans. Ask him questions based on what he says and remember anything that makes you feel icky or off, because that’s a red flag or a boundary crossing to you.

Don’t tell him the following:

- How bad any of your ex’s treated you (you just wanted different things)

- How many men you slept with (honestly walk away if he asks what’s your count)

- Do not engage in sexual convo with him. If he does it’s a red flag, leave if safe. No hand holding, no kissing , etc. he needs to earn them!!

- Do not offer to pay or split the bill.

- Do not say yes to drinks after dinner and do not drink alcohol

- Keep your childhood stories and family relationships happy for now regardless of how toxic anyone in your family is

- Pay attention to what he says and does

- You are the prize, he needs to put all the effort

Don't get carried away. It's easy to get excited for your first date in a long time. Even more so if he is cute and is pursuing you. My advice- don't lose your hobbies for this guy. I got so excited with my ex that I saw him 4 days a week. I remember sacrificing sleep (staying up late with him), my dishes and laundry piled up, etc and guess what he dumped me via text message 3 months in after an earnest pursuit, exclusivity, talks of the future, meeting friend and family. Watch the Susan winter Livestream or video on flashpanning. You don't know this man at all. Lots of guys are "nice" for the first few weeks or months. You might have major lifestyle incompatibility. Don't interrogate him, but allow him to talk (don't fill up the silence, it gives him so much info to manipulate you and you don't learn anything including red flags). Just relax, smile and enjoy yourself. I used to get so intense about dating after my long break, where I wouldn't even get the second date, so what was the point of worrying at all? Just relax and you'll see in a few weeks if this guy is even serious. My ex was the perfect gentleman for 3 weeks straight and then we had sex, after which he never wore a condom again. You don't know a guy from one two or even ten dates so pump the brakes on your excitement.

Be vague about your job title/field and workplace

In fact feel free to lie

A nurse? say you're a tax accountant

Teacher? Say you're a tax accountant

It's too easy for scrotes to stalk you based on your workplace

You could also be more vague, and just give a broad field like "healthcare" or "education" but do not give out the details of your workplace. Say a different suburb/city if need be

Pmed you! Don't like commenting as much since the word limit is too tiny hahaha