Would you date someone without a car?

Tried this. Never again. I refused to pick him up and requested instead that he use Uber to pick me up. He did for a while until of course he came to resent me and get shitty with me about this. Above all, lack of a car means he is fundamentally irresponsible and has other, larger problems: usually his money is going to drugs, alcohol, gambling, porn, or inappropriate debts instead of a car. Unless it's NYC, but that's the only exception.

No. I don't enjoy driving myself and find it very stressful so I don't want to end up being the designated driver in a relationship. I'll also never play taxi for a man (because let's face it: if you have a car and he doesn't that's exactly what's going to happen).

Nooo. Omg especially if they don’t have a license. Even if he gives me plenty of fuel money, it’s just so embarrassing for him to get out of my car like a little passenger princess in PUBLIC. Or if he says “I’ll drive” with your own car. It’s just much cuter and gentlemanly when a guy has a nice car and picks you up and drops you home and waits for you to get inside so you’re safe

No

I don't drive so I used to be okay with that until I dated a guy with a car - relationships can really be so much richer if you can do day trips and and explore stuff together. Also it's probably an age thing - it might be more appropriate to do this if you're in your early 20s in university or something, but any guy in their late 20s and beyond without one probably has some serious issues.

I’m in Europe. If he lives in a big city where driving a car isn’t necessary and parking expensive, I’m ok with him not having a car. However, a drivers license is a non negotiable must.

Firstly because I need him to get around fully independently and not be a burden to me (eg if we rent a car at our vacation destination or something, and I want him to be able to pick me up, too, occasionally, in a rented or shared car for all I care).

Secondly because I have found that there is an alarming correlation between ‘not having a drivers license’ and ‘being a selfish, short term minded and undisciplined scrote’ in men. Sadly, their numbers are growing at an alarming rate where I live, and that’s not out of environmental idealism. Usually just out of a lack of stamina to make this investment in themselves and for once finish something they started.

No. That's part of the bare minimum to get to date me. And it has to be a nice car, don't try to cheap out on second-hand or entry-level. No stingy or broke scrotes for me. I know my worth.

I wouldn’t date a guy without a car. If he had some type of condition (like blindness) and couldn’t drive, then that’s ok.

If I lived somewhere like NYC, London, Vancouver etc , then I wouldn’t mind. Because the public transportation is good and it’s usually faster and easier than driving a car.

I went out with a guy for a few dates and he didn’t have a car. And I’ll never do it again.

After our first date, I felt bad because it’s was a cold Canadian night (-30) so I offered him a ride home. This was my bad.

After that I saw him a few other times and he acted to entitled to me driving him or picking him up/drop off. He also said I was a bad driver. But I’m almost positive he didn’t have a drivers license.

So at least I CAN DRIVE A CAR. I ended up ghosting him when he asked for a ride after that.

Sometimes, you need to look out as well, because he may have lost his license too. He could have multiple DUIs that he’s hiding from you.

or he’s wasting money on other things.

I get the bus/train is cheaper. I drive but hate driving in the downtown area of my city. So I do take the bus at times.

Past a certain age for a man, it’s a sign of being irresponsible and lazy. I feel differently for women who do not drive.

So I’d recommend to all the ladies here, just don’t do it. Idc if you don’t have a car or license yourself, don’t date men who are carless

If you’re in the US, absolutely not. If in Europe or parts of South America, Africa or Asia with great public transport, then maybe.

Nope.

It's different when they don't have a car temporarily because it is being inspected. A guy without a car is highly suspicious because it more than likely indicates that he lost his license because he was irresponsible. By looking deeper, this person also isn't being entirely truthful with you.

No woman should take on the responsibility of a grown man not getting his shit together.

I live in a metropolitan city and people travel on scooters. Granted, most of these scooter riders are men. I think that there are exceptions and it’s usually for younger men who are still in college and broke af, or even in highschool. My neighbour’s son who’s started college has a scooter that he uses to go to school. I’ve occasionally seen him pick his dates up in the scooter and it’s hilarious, but I understand his situation. I’ve also seen highschool boys take their sweethearts on dates with these scooters. In a ll of these cases then I mentioned above, I find it slightly adorable and funny. However, I have yet to see a grown ass man take his date out with a scooter, motorcycles yes, but scooters naw. I think it would be much more embarrassing to see a girl dolled up and holding on to her date on a scooters with her dress swaying in the wind hahaha

I have spoken to guys who choose not have cars and some of them talk about how they save 10k yearly. Someone of them even break down the cost of food used as bodily energy fuel to justify not having a car, and buying alternative transportation. Tbh it sounds really cheap tho.

Personally, I have never dated a guy with no car. Nor would I be caught dead on someone’s mortobike, scooter, or skateboard. Commuting is a nightmare and I will never get on a bus to see a guy ever again.

No. Unless it's a big city like NYC, etc....but either way he MUST have a drivers license already....before we even meet.

Pick me story time about degrading myself and getting to know an OLDER guy with no car. So I was getting to know this guy when I was 19 and he was 22. He Didn't have a car. We need cars where I live. I drove 25 minutes to pick him up at night/evening went to the beach (close by). I was a smoker back then so I thought we were going to smoke weed and just talk. Yup.... I really did foolishly think that.... so he started to try to make out with me! I did not know how to stand up for myself at that time and so I said I don't want to make out but I'll give you a quick kiss on the lips like a peck. HE SAID WHAT? A PECK? WE ARE NOT IN MIDDLE SCHOOL! and tried going in again! he was demanding to make out with me basically and after he said that comment is FINALLY when I decided to drop him off and block him. 5 years later at a bookstore I saw him and he saw me. He tried asking me about a book and asked if I was (my name). I pretended I didn't recognize him, that wasn't my name, but I answered his question. I saw him and his friend follow me in the store a few times as I was browsing.

When I was in my teen years and early 20s because I didn’t have a car I didn’t mind dating a guy without a car. It was still hard taking transit everywhere to dates just to meet him and Uber added up fast.

Now that I’m in my mid 20s and I have a car I expect the guy to have a car as well so that it’s easier to go out on dates, day trips and running errands. Uber prices add up and gas isn’t cheap so I wouldn’t want to be the one always driving him and I’d rather be a passenger princess than feel masculine or like his mother picking him up and driving him around all the time.

No. This is actually one of my bare minimum must haves for dating.