Would you be OK with your partner going to a solo meet with a woman? (THESE ARE NOT MY TEXTS!)

His dismissive tone in this text exchange suggests he doesn't really respect her.

It's funny when you have already level up a bit to clearly recognize this shitters. The way he writes and the way he talks to her with zero respect almost wake up mental powers in me to predict the future.

Day 1: "Yes I hang out with other girls friends/female coworkers alone to drink. You don't trust me???".

Day XX: "Yes I cheated bc you became a crazy controller/sad/angry bitch and we had stopped having sex, lol".

Sounds to me like he is a man keeping his options open / seeing what else is out there.

I personally view it as micro cheating. Might not be anything physical going on, but the emotional connection would make me uncomfortable.

If it is a strictly professional meeting, then they would be meeting at an office or a coffee shop.

My friend’s screenshot she sent to me today!! I feel like her boyfriend of one year is manipulating her / gaslighting just by his language and word choice Idk. triangulating? She is upset by this.

Hell no. They tend to spring it on you suddenly and expect you to be okay with it. If this happens to you, dump him. Ignore him tantrum, tell him that’s cheating and he’s dumped.

Hell no to that. That disrespectful dude needs to be dropped like a hot garbage potato. Easily clocked as a scrote who likes to have his cake and fuck it. All of the nopes.

No, I would not be. I'm feeling more old-fashioned every day. Not that anything is really wrong with being old-fashioned (I hope not).

A real hvm would never put the woman into a situation that makes her suspicious or even remotely makes her feel uncomfortable.

Notice it's "Another woman" if he was simply seeing his mom or a relative then he'd specifically say "my mom" etc.

Notice the manipulation in the double text response. Men hardly ever double text, and when they do its for a good reason. Here the double text is him manipulating her ie "spinning the table around" trying to make him look like a good guy for not "hiding it" 🤡

Notice his next text is another manipulation- he's doubling down and trying to further make her feel crazy and bad by blabbing about how if it was a man. It's not the same thing.

A real hvm would never be entertaining other women especially taking them alone out to a dinner! Dude he is cheating on her and trying to get her to be gaslit and manipulated into thinking it's normal. I can already hear the sHeS jUsT a FrIeND

Obviously depends on the woman and the context a little but in general I am not okay with one on one "date like" meetings with women he is not related to.

Dinner with his sister? Fine.

A quick coffee with a business partner or colleague in the cafeteria of his workplace to discuss something related to work? Depends on his relationship with that business partner a little, but can be fine.

Candlelight dinner with a female "friend", "acquaintance" or "woman he met during hobby/event x", absolutely not.

The tone is unacceptable and shows a lack of respect. He is being too defensive.

If there is established trust and respect, then I am okay with my partner meeting women but it doesn’t happen often and it really depends on the context. When he does it, it is generally work related and if it’s a personal friend, then there is a group dynamic involved in the meetup (they aren’t one on one meetings).

My partner made an effort to distance himself from female friends without me having to ask him. He simply believes it’s inappropriate to have close friendships with women while being in a relationship. He also makes an effort to introduce me to all of his friends - including the women he knows. And these women in return have taken actions to make me feel included in social outings.

I am personally comfortable with situation. But of course, not every woman would be and the point of this sub is that women are entitled to whatever standard or boundary they feel comfortable drawing.

Obviously no.

Lmao this reminds me of a time my friend was out to eat and saw our mutual friend's boyfriend with another woman and her young daughter. The boyfriend was trying to hide from the friend so she wouldn't notice him. My friend video chatted with the girlfriend and the girlfriend confirmed it was his ex gf. When the girlfriend later confronted him about it he claimed he was just meeting with "his realtor". Nevermind he wasn't looking to buy or sell any property. I asked my boyfriend at the time if this was a normal thing realtors do with clients and he laughed and said no. Ironically enough his ex gf from like 15 years ago did use him while we were dating to sell her house. They didn't have solo meetings and would only communicate about stuff pertaining to selling her house. It was strictly business