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Hello sisters, After deigning to give those insipid dating apps yet another chance, I suffered through an utterly vexing week of ignored red flags and dates with surprise beard-rings, it is solidified in me that dating apps simply do not work for me.
I am currently working from the confines of my home. My workplace isn't even in my town. My friends don't have any male friends I am interested in (committed, gay, LVMs). Thus, the quandary prevails - how do I meet someone IRL? Even if it's all by chance I should probably go out more but I have no idea how to actually connect with someone randomly, nor would I like to be approached based solely on physical attraction (I'm thinking for instance gym which sounds like a terrible place to meet someone). I am getting busy which is good and I know I don't need a relationship to be happy. But lo, I would like to know how I can get more out there and either find a magical place where you can find HVM or your personal stories.
It's basically just chance meeting a hvm.
There's also a lot on this topic on this forum and the podcast too.
So I don't know if you'll get any advice here. Id look through older posts.
I've met friends through meetup groups (such as local board game groups), so I imagine you can find a guy the same way, but even just making friends through them is hit or miss. People don't always come regularly, and not everyone you meet will be your vibe, etc. I honestly don't know either. It isn't a movie where people just talk to strangers at the grocery store or something.
Go out and live your life the way you want to and maybe you’ll meet someone along the way. I’ve heard casual co-Ed sports is a good way to meet someone, but I haven’t had that experience. I take classes for a sport and I’ve made friends through that, along with having an artistic hobby where I can also be social.
I hate to ask, but what is a beard-ring?
(because in my mind it's like some viking/dwarvish way of styling a beard with metal rings and I know that can't be right)
The FDS pocast episode on Flirting Strategies is a good place to start. Then the one on Scrotation Management, then Communication Dynamics. You're welcome.
Avoid "high female ratio" hobbies like Yoga. Mixed gyms and martial arts are ok.