Why would a guy ask me out and then disappear when I say yes

Question

It's really weird. It has already happened to me in the past. Blocked and deleted.    I shrug at this confusing lvm behaviour but is this new trend?

luxurylover · Accepted Answer

You're right to be confused because women don't act like this. Well done for blocking and deleting idiots who do this because it is very much LV behaviour.

They do it for a variety of reasons:

Some of them may sense that you won't be easy to manipulate so while they may ask you out in the moment, they may decide to never get in touch again. Some may ask you out before they've gotten to know you more in the conversation. The more they talk and get a sense of your personality and let's say the woman comes across as confident, secure and no-nonsense, the guy will see that she's not a woman he can mess about and decide to scamper off in the form of never getting in touch again once the conversation ends.

Another reason is insecurity - while some men won't approach a woman that intimidates them, some will, to try their luck. When they get talking to the woman and see how accomplished she is, they compare themselves to the woman and know that she's out of their league which makes them insecure so once the conversation ends, even if they've asked the woman out, they decide to not get in touch because they don't want to feel nervous, insecure and lacking which are all the ways they felt while talking to the woman. They can have asked the woman out before getting to know her more which is where they then learn how accomplished she is while internally, regretting asking her out or they may even ask her out after having a long conversation with her because they think they can handle being with her but then once they leave, they think about how accomplished the woman is and get real with themselves that they are not compatible. With that, they decide to not hurt their pride by pursuing a woman that is more accomplished than them.

Another reason why they ask women out and disappear is because they want an ego boost and a sense of power - this guy (and guys like him) want to see if you/the woman would say yes. In your case, once you did, he proved that he could get you. Guys like this have no intention of taking you out and only ask to see if you'd be interested in going out with them. Many of them are already involved with another woman and wanted to see if they still "have it" by chasing and asking out another woman.

It's like guys who ask for your number and then never text or call. It's the same thing. They wanted to see if they could get you and when you said yes, they got their answer.

All of it is truly bizarre behaviour but that's LV men for you!

luxurylover · Answer

I couldn't agree more @Samah! Like you, when I came to understand how dedicated men are to chasing women they aren't interested in being serious with........all to get attention, I was blown away. Why anyone would waste that much time for something so meaningless in the end is not something I can understand or take seriously. It is a waste of life, yes! It just goes to show you how warped a lot of men are.

Smh · Answer

All this time and work just for crumbs of meaningless attention ?!  What a waste of life.

luxurylover · Answer

@LadySadie, I'm glad you've clocked on to this stupid way of behaving too!

Well done for not making it easy for the guy but what a loser he turned out to be. Isn't it pathetic how men do this? They go out of their way to lead women on and pretend to be interested.....all for an ego boost. Men really love attention. It's good that this guy left you alone because he clearly had nothing good to offer, especially when you add on the fact that he may have been intimidated by you. Good; he should keep his insecure cojones to himself.

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they invite as many women as they can and then go see the first one who accepted the invitation and/or the one they think they are lakely to have sex with, or the "dream girl" whatever that means for a guy these days. that's very low value behaviour.

trust me, you've dodged a bullet.

Why would a guy ask me out and then disappear when I say yes

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