Why is it such an issue that I'm still single at 33? I sent my mom a recipe and this her response.

Girl you need to put boundaries down. Your dating life is not your mother’s business and you need to tell her that. Every single time she brings it up. It’s tiring but she’ll learn eventually. When she brings it up, put your hand up in a stop gesture and state “I am not discussing this with you.” Same response, every time. If you don’t budge, she will learn.

Edit in response to the added screenshots: you are inadvertently enabling her by responding to her. Stop engaging with her comments about your relationship status. You are unintentionally adding to your own stress.

No means no. Say that out loud when she brings it up and you don’t want to engage in this discussion. Work on your boundary setting skills (read Get Out of Your Own Way by Mark Goulston). Having boundaries does not make you unkind, it just means you have self-respect and a backbone. It’s really depressing seeing this. Please be better to yourself.

"Mom, If I wanted to work that hard and get nothing in return, I'd get a second job that paid nothing"

Don't listen to her. You'll never satisfy her.

It'll go from oh you found someone.... so when are you getting married...when are you two buying a house..... when are you guys having children and soooo on.

You got to live for yourself. And for yourself only.

Things like that being said to women constantly is the reason too many women will take whatever crummy scrote crosses their path, and learn the hard way that there's much worse things than being single.

There aren't enough voices letting women know we don't have to take this crap. I'm so glad we can be those voices for each other here. 😘

Maybe show her some of the "wonderful" options currently on OLD and see how she feels. Does she want a crusty son-in-law? One who is a financial drain as opposed to being an actual provider? Will you be able to take care of her during her elderly age, or will you be too busy taking care of husband, kids, and in-laws?

You mom seems like the type of woman to believe a rapist who just so happens to be her son in law, she knew for 2 years, over her 30 year old daughter who she raised from birth. No offense, but your mom is a real narcissistic bitch (and I have no problem saying that because if it were you father or some random man I'd call him the same if not worse). Drop her, she will only pull you down. She can't wait to see you waste away caring for a man who doesn't love you because that was probably what she went through- crabs in a bucket mentality. What a god awful woman- I'm so sorry that was the person you had to grow up with.🤬

Maybe point out to her that science has shown unmarried women are the happiest and longest living demographic.

Ok babes, you have posted about your mum before. Are you really surprised? Just laugh it off/state your boundary of not discussing dating with your mother/block delete mum altogether. These are your options for retain sanity.

I took screenshots of the rest of the conversation after that comment.