Why do people, especially other women, get upset when I mention I don't have and don't want any male friends?

BEcause they are pickmes and worry too much about the feelings of men they don't know, men you don't know, just men in general. because how dare you live a life without catering to men? HOW DARE YOU?

IDK but for what it's worth, I think you're being sensible Howhiareu. I don't bother with male friends either because every single male "friend" I ever had was just pretending to be my friend in order to get in my pants. IMO the vast majority of men who befriend women are "nice guys" i.e. the kind of men who think that women owe them sex and/or a relationship if they show them even basic human decency.

It's also worth pointing out that the majority of SA victims are assaulted by someone that they know. Sometimes it's the husband/boyfriend or a male relative but I strongly suspect that the other times, it's a male "friend" who decided to take what he felt he was owed. I don't have statistics to back this up but that's my gut feeling. So basically what I'm saying is that IMO male friends are dangerous and not worth the risk.

I gave men a chance they all asked for nudes, so I stopped talking to them. I guess some are still salty for saying no as I’ve found deep fake images of me on cam whores. Men ruin your life. It’s better to stay away from them.

It’s a form of confusion, when independent women say things like “I don’t want to get married or have relationships with men” they’re confused and perplexed at you having an identity without the validation of Men. I will never have male friends, I don’t trust them and I don’t feel comfortable. That’s just me. Women have been socialised to be pick mes unfortunately, it’s best to ignore them. And to just say “my life doesn’t revolve around having relations with men”

The ones getting mad at you sound like my pickme mom. She think's men need help and women are supposed to offer their services (read: free labor) to help a man. She genuinely thinks Usha vance is some amazing superwoman for helping her chump husband get away from drugs like uh? That's not her job nor any woman's job- that's for a rehab facility for him to worry about. That's just an example.

We went from girls getting shamed for chasing boys in kid school to being told why aren't we chasing behind grown ass men that could potentially harm us in our adult lives...

It makes the whole "not like other girls" trope less valid.

I said this to a chick last year, and she looked at me like I killed her family. A chick who gets abused constantly by dudes, but hey, having a bunch of them as "friends" has some sort of social value to them.

It's like destroying a currency.

I like when women respond with fear about that, because it shows where their values actually are.

Most women in a patriarchy are not friends with other women.

Lol are you me? My mom (love her) straight up told me it's "not a sin" to be friends with them. I know, Mom, I'm not worried about that, I just literally just do not desire their company, AT ALL lol. My husband and dad are enough. I get along with two of my BILs very well too. I don't need or crave any more XY company than that.

I think people react this way because men are the default. Shunning them is basically shunning humanity. It's why "spinsters" and women-only groups are looked upon with so much disdain and suspicion.

But say you don't want to be friends with women? Why, that's just the normal reaction! 🙄 Who wants to be around a bunch of gossipy, dramatic feeeemales if they're not putting out for men?

I have not, but I can imagine that men would get upset if you told them the same thing.

They start fighting me on this. "But WHY" and "NOT ALLLLL MEN" and "that's WEIRD and UNHEALTHY" and "you need a BALANCE" and "you can't go through life with ONLY WOMEN FRIENDS"

It's like- why are you so pressed about my desire to not be friends with men? WHY does this bother you?