This is me. I appreciate my family but I will never forgive them for not equipping me with the right mindset as a woman.
Eldest daughter here so you know what this means: I am the family manager. Like everything. Got my mom through school when she decided to go back while I was working on my academics with ADHD and now helping her through her divorce with my dad in every way imaginable. Went to my sisters teachers meetings because my mom is insecure about her language skills and got my sister an ADHD diagnosis. Supporting my brother with his grades and his chronic illness. Became my narc dads therapist and shielding my family from his abuse. I cook, I clean, I teach, I work and I look after everyone to the point that they all confide in me and ask for my opinion.
And they expect more from me too! When I tell them I am dead I cant live all your lives and mine too I need help, they lash out. I kept all my personal struggles to myself (I honestly thing I became hyper independent) because they just think this shouldnt break me. Well, you cant teach me my entire life that I am weaker, not a leader, in need of support but then expect me to save all of you.
I am so glad I was always opposed to the ideas this culture taught me because in all honesty my entire family would have fallen apart if I hadnt stepped up. This life and this world doesnt care if you are a man or a woman, its tough out here and thinking you have the option of being weak is delusional, especially if you are a woman.
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Oct 30, 2022
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I used to remind my brother to call people on their birthdays, mostly because they would complain to me when he wouldn’t.
My mom had a serious mental illness and the last few years of her life I was the only one who took her calls or saw her. My brother had the nerve to tell his friends he was mad at me for not being nicer to her. Lol. I have health conditions and live on disability. He earned $350,000 a year and bought his friends kids shoes they didn’t need while our mom died from poverty & I wasn’t nice enough to her? 😂😂
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Oct 30, 2022
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Oldest daughter here too. I was happiest when I was 3000 miles and 3 time zones away from all of them.
Everytime I try to cut contact with my lazy as$ brothers even though I still live at home my pickme mom tries to shame me even though my brothers are lvm, lazy and always cause drama either with me or with law enforcement. Yet my pick me mom verbally shames me for distancing myself and keeping my resources away from them (usually money). Then they bend over backwards to help them and leave me fending for myself I wish I had the $$ and career to move out but they sabotaged that too...
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Because society and their mommy raised them that way.
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Because everyone tells them that theyre great. Including each other.
Everytime I try to cut contact with my lazy as$ brothers even though I still live at home my pickme mom tries to shame me even though my brothers are lvm, lazy and always cause drama either with me or with law enforcement. Yet my pick me mom verbally shames me for distancing myself and keeping my resources away from them (usually money). Then they bend over backwards to help them and leave me fending for myself I wish I had the $$ and career to move out but they sabotaged that too...
Because society and their mommy raised them that way.