Why do men have a midlife crisis?

Most of those guys always knew deep down that they were pathetic losers. They just assumed that at some point they’d do something worthwhile, or be cool, or find success. Then one day they realize at least half their life is gone and that they aren’t getting any younger, so they try to instantly become what they always hoped they could be, a cool, interesting, accomplished person. The problem is they’re still boring ass, loser sad sacks and they aren’t going to actually do anything, just gravitate towards lazy symbols of male accomplishment: cool car/motorcycle, babe on their arm, throwing cash around

You should focus more on yourself. Stop thinking about men and your life will improve.

It’s reality finally catching up to them. They “settle” for some poor, unsuspecting woman that crosses all the items on the list, gives him a baby, a family, etc., all while waiting for what was “promised” to come along. Then they hit 50 and the delusion beats so strong that a barista smiling at them has them abandoning said family to chase ass their granddaughter’s age. Biggest flag to me of a man who never cared a lick for the woman he conned into becoming his life partner. That goes double for any kids they might have.

I have my own theory (Obligitoty TikTok sound: *I've waited YEARS for someone to ask me about my theories!*)

1. Not exactly news, but women are HEAVILY conditioned to put others' needs before their own. Who has to turn down hanging out with their friends on the weekends so they can watch their cousins, neighbor's kids, younger siblings? Women. Who's expected to stay close to home/ come back home to take care of elderly family? Women. I've talked to people who despise the end of "A Dolls House" because the main character "abandons" her children by leaving her husband (Nora leaves her kids under the BEST circumstances, her kids were always raised by a nanny and her ex-husband was rich. Emotionally and financially, these kids are good. But the way people react to the ending of the play you'd think she's worse than Medea who unalives her two kids at the end of the play). But how many stories, TV shows, movies, etc. do we have where the dad abandons his family or is otherwise absent? Where's his villianization? We blame girls for having "daddy issues" but to nothing to hold the guy who causes said issues responsible. The fact is, our society is fully expects and condones shitty fathers.

2. No one prepares men for getting old. We all know about how young, pretty women can "get what they want" purely based on being young and pretty. Here's what no one talks about-- young, vaguely attractive men absolutely has pretty privilege too. Just no one recognizes it as "pretty privilege." At least with women, we're constantly told over and over again that this privilege will one day go away. Men don't get this. So in their minds, they're going around thinking that everyone thinks they're so smart, funny, interesting, charismatic, etc because they MUST BE so smart, funny, interesting, charismatic, etc. Nah, bro. You're just pretty. So then when they age out of being boyishly good looking and all the attention and admiration dries up, they can't imagine what the hell is going on. Boom! Midlife crisis.

Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk

Just pure selfishness

They have reached their peak earning years, are losing testosterone, and know that, using their standards, everything is downhill from there. They aren't capable of doing a searching self-inventory, so they look at changing superficial things in their lives using the same standards that have already let them down. Women, on the other hand, dig deep and change and learn. It can be painful, but we do it.

Women can definitely have them too. Just might present differently than it does in males.

This happened to my uncle LMFAO! My uncle retired... moved to another country...and that's when all his fuckery began. My mom gets non-stop calls from my family members complaining about his behavior.