Why do guys act so uncomfortable around me?

If I do, I guess I can thank my ex for that lol. In all seriousness, I have a lot of self-esteem issues and it's hard for me to see myself that way

Same boat. I still feel insecure inside, but ppl often comment on how confident I appear. Fake it til you make it.

I wish I had a good solution for you, but unfortunately these tactics are often successful in interfering with a woman’s ability to complete her work. If your school isn’t a trade school and the dean, academic dean, and dean of students are people working in academia (as opposed to just more bros in your specialized field) they may be able to help if this freeze out is preventing you from successfully completing your work. In the work force you’re unfortunately not going to be likely to have anyone to appeal to who doesn’t share these hateful attitudes. Either way, document everything, no matter how small. Include dates, times, and names of offenders. Starting records early will be beneficial should you need to use legal recourse to protect yourself at some point. I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this. It isn’t right and it isn’t your fault. It breaks my heart that you’re worrying about frizzy hair and otherwise trying to figure out how to change yourself to be treated like a human being. You aren’t the broken one, they are.

I didn't think of the interfering with work aspect, that's a good point. Definitely document if it's interfering with getting your job done.

The silver lining is that in my experience you don't wanna be too friendly with them, it usually backfires. It usually ends up with them mad at you because you didn't dispense the sex, and they put niceness coins in. Too friendly too flirty and you end up labeled a whore even if you didn't sleep with anybody, or even give out your phone number.

My advice is to keep interactions brief. Cordial. If you're funny use it. As cheesy as it sounds smiles are powerful and can go a long way. Fake it till you make it if you have to. Say good morning and have a nice day. Be very picky if anyone gets your number, women are the safest bet. I don't recommend males lol. Don't compliment dudes they get weird and bigheaded. If you just gotta compliment them go for clothing/accessories to keep it neutral. Don't flirt. Or keep it as innocent as possible with as few as possible.

I left a majority women field and joined a majority men field. I thought dUDeS aRe lEsS dRama teehee. Nope. Wrong. They're feral. I think its equally as hard to get help from HR in both. (Slightly easier in women's field) However I have never been threatened by a women and worried she could find my home after work. Women can be absolute dicks and you can't report them for sex discrimination, make you dread coming in to work, bug you all day long and just wanna quit. But a man can do just the same, and be as untouched by HR, plus the lovely added bonus of intimidation. Screaming in your face and cornering you. Its a whole other level so tread carefully

Even if you're in a trade school seek out advocates. I went to a trade school that was run by a woman, even though the student body was 95% guys. The dean would definitely advocate. But, don't go to any authority figure until you have thought through the problem and decided what outcome to ask for. These situations have a way of biting women.

At this point, I’m all for naming the elephant in the room. Name what you feel and use the “when you, I feel, because” which keeps it to where you own your feelings, you don’t outright blame, and your asking an open-ended question. It would be great if someone answered immediately but I’d bet someone pulls you aside like say outside or in the bathroom, and tells you one on one. Name the issue and then consider if you want to work there or move on. I am a retired teacher and my second California school was super dysfunctional. Many principals had used the school as a stepping stone so there was this “justice is just us” very closed off, cliquish mentality. Benign narc hired me as a very experienced teacher to undermine and annoy fragile malignant narc, both teachers in my department. Fun times, up to and including having FM narc try to smear my rep before she retired. Was super happy I was so involved in caregiving with late husband Jack that her fuckery barely registered. My entire time there, I was treated as less than competent, older, out of the loop, etc. I knew it was them not me. Learned a lot, just none of the lessons they thought I should learn!

Is this a troll?