Where are the attractive men?

I’m in the same boat. I was very confused for years because I knew that I was technically attracted to men, but was *very* rarely finding any men I actually saw out and about in person attractive. I’m in the US, so maybe that has something to do with it — men here seem to take pride in doing absolutely nothing to improve their appearance, and most of them are severely overweight. I think the weight issue is my biggest obstacle. On the other hand, every time I leave the house I am constantly seeing women I think are beautiful, even though I’m not attracted to women.

Asexuality isnt a real sexual orientation. Youre a straight woman with a low sex drive. Thats all. Dont fixate on labling yourself with goofy fake identities. Just pay attention to how you feel.

And most men in most places are ugly.

This is why I'm single for who knows how long. In the past 20 years, I think I've seen less attractive men than I can count on one hand, if I'm lucky. My dad doesn't believe me. He thinks that just by virtue of people being human beings, that people get attracted to each other. It doesn't work that easily. I just can't find any man handsome enough to be interested in. I'm actually sick and tired of this, but it never changes. I wonder if I was born this way, or if I'm in the wrong country.

Unfortunately for us, most men are not even average but extremely unatractive. I am from Europe and it's same here. Atractive men with atractive character are so so soooo rare it's not only sad but tragic. I don't understand why mother nature would do it like this? Is this bad gene pool generated through patriarchy? Sometimes it just feels so unnatural...so out of place...so strange.

Go to the Mediterranean. They're much better looking there.

I feel the same way. I think men in Europe tend to be more attractive to me because they dress a little more formally and are not as loud as men in the US. They also tend to take better care with their facial hair (I hate scruff) and grooming overall.

I’m in the Bay Area, and most men wear faded/old tshirts and very casual jackets. They are scruffy, wear worn out shoes… I think the attire might vary by industry, and tech is just notorious for having people who dress like slobs.

Also, while I find Indian or Middle Eastern men attractive physically, it’s hard for me to actually get excited by them because I feel that they’ve been indoctrinated in misogynistic cultures and will never be able to see a woman as anything but an object.

I’m hoping the east coast or Midwest may have better prospects - visiting some friends in New York shortly so, I guess I’ll see!

It's a shame that most men we would like to have are fictional. That's how sad and moronic men are in real life. I've seen birds treat their mates better than men. If birds get it then why can't men? Calling them a bird brain would be an insult to the birds because at least they understand that their mate who just laid eggs need to rest and recover, the male human on the other hand have the nerve to call you lazy and think looking after children and run the household is not that hard.

There are women who are like 22 and the 4th baby is on the way. where is the resting period? when can she recover? putting your life on the line for the 4th time because men want babies. If men had to go to the army putting their life on the line in order to be suitable to procreate then most of them would not want children, but because women will always take the fall, they can lose their life, they need to recover, they need to give up everything Men are comfortable demanding more offsprings.

When ppl say life doesn't end after child birth are lowkey talking about men, their life hardly change.

Wow, I feel seen lol. It's so sad.

For a long time I thought I didn't enjoy flirting. Men would flirt with me and I felt like a passive witness. I never played into it.

Then at some point I saw or met a couple of men that just did it for me. I found myself wanting to lock eyes with them and I enjoyed catching their cheeky grin. It felt FUN. In the past it never felt FUN for me it always felt like something that HAPPENED to me.

Even then....those moments are still a rarity for me ... because most men are alright looking, dress like shit, have bad hygieny or are simply unattractive.

Oh my when I'm in certain places 😳 and then I'm back in England 😭

They’re not in midwestern USA. They’re porky , unkempt , and high as kites 24/7 .

Hard pass.

The most handsome man I've seen in ages was a young homeless in Barcelona. It's sad.

I like to think they're in a koi pond somewhere going "Blub blub blub" with their masters degrees framed above the rocks like a bougie Petco

I’m in a large city and yeah, most of the men here are not aesthetically attractive, compared to the women. The men that are *know* they are, and you can tell because unlike most men who will stare you in your eye stems if you so much as glance in their direction because they are lacking in attention, the beautiful men do no such thing. They don’t have to because they are swarmed with pick-me attention and most of those beautiful men here are “ENM” because they can be (as the saying goes, men are as faithful as their options).

I guess the upside is you can stare at them without shame and simply admire their beauty (I have no issue in objectifying men due to the power dynamic) because they will pretend not to notice unless you look like a model. But actual access to them is tough as beautiful women simply far outweigh beautiful men. So yeah, you can go to a more populated city and you’ll see some of the most beautiful men in the world but they’re scarce and scooped quick, thus you have to be super leveled up…if not aesthetically, then with some measure of social clout. Not to mention they might not actually have good character (the ones that do and are monogamous, their women are riding that until the wheels fall off….and I don’t blame them!).

I can only speak to U.S. cities however, haven’t lived outside the country.

So all that being said, this may not be FDS of me (and I’m not saying YOU should “lower your standards”) but I’ve been ok to focus on good character/pro-radfem men with so-so looks. It’s not to say that’s common- those men get scooped too bc what woman doesn’t want a man who makes her life easier?- but it widens the pool for me.

I swear it’s rare that I actually encounter attractive men nowadays. I think I’ve encountered two that I was into in the past 6 months.

I wish I was like that to be honest. I tend to get attracted to even plain looking scrotes and I have to put in a ton of effort to not be a pick me, because that's a habit I've had for YEARS

I encounter more attractive men in the HCOL city I am in now. Everyone here tends to walk more in general than where I was living previously with the only mode of transportation being a car.

I also feel like everyone here is aware that you are on display as soon as you step out your door. There is no hiding your appearance from home to car to work.