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I've sometimes felt like I'm not a good judge of whether or not I've had a connection with someone because I'll have what feels like a spark with a guy but have nothing come from it. I then wonder if only I felt the spark and he didn't.
Do guys feel it too and just decide to not go any further/make anything happen with the woman? Are we projecting the spark we feel, on our end, on the guy?
Does anyone have an answer to this?
I think yes, but I also think their “spark” threshold is EXTREMELY low. We feel it when there’s near magic. They feel it if a woman looks at them lol.
When he sees you and thinks that you are pretty the first sparks that comes up in his mind is that he can see himself having intercourse with you. Usually after that they become braindead. I’m joking. After that he decided to pursue you or not. So based on their upbringing and socialisation they either don’t pursue because they have not enough money to give you a luxe or easy lifestyle OR, he is convinced that he is entitled to receive every ounce of energy of women for his entertainment/pleasure/orgasm what may ends up making him predatory/misogynistic. He might be mirroring/projecting what you feel back to you. You can try to up you ‘spark’ tolerance-meter to feel it only when he invested an amount of energy and money in you. That will make you feel better and less disappointed because you don't settle for just his looks and charms.
Just...just watch this video at 1:48
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zCBdH7QReXA&ab_channel=WarnerBros.Entertainment