Everything done correctly, block & delete. NC. You are done. Well something happened I was not expecting. They fucking showed up in person. At an event that was really important for me, I run the event so also super inconvenient. It was like 3 months to the day NC. They showed up with some of my items that I had already told them during the breakup no big deal if I don't get them back. Seriously, I thought it was done. Why in the world would they do this?? I was super unprepared for this encounter.
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Why would he do this? Because scrotery knows no bounds.
Ooof I'm so sorry that happened to you!!! This happened to me too, in October!! 4 months of block & delete NC and he showed up waiting for me outside of my fitness class at my gym. Says it's his last night in town and he "just wanted to say goodbye" 🙄🙄🙄 Like @killbill said, it's all about them. They don't want you to forget them because they know they fucked up by letting you go and treating you badly enough for you to leave. They want to take up space in your mind and they can't do it by texting you, because you have them blocked, so what's the alternative besides stalking you?
I let my ex know if he shows up in person again I'm filing a restraining order. I suggest you communicate the same to yours!
Because they want to ruin events that matter to you, or at the very least, taint or make the moment and therefore memory about them.
Even better when they know this is YOUR event and one where you're in a very visible position running the show - they want to exercise any semblance of power when they see you thriving and doing well for yourself. I hope your event went well despite this bullshit you had to deal with.
I am terrified my ex of 18 months NC will show up to my home. He knows where I live, but he's blocked every where else. They show up because 1. They realize the grass isn't greener on the other side. 2. They don't want you to forget them, take up space on your mind. 3. They still want a chance at fucking you cause they haven't found anyone else to fuck 4. Not giving AF about your peace, only their selfish needs.
He's using the items as a bridge to get you to acknowledge him. Say he can throw them away and remove yourself from his presence.
can I be honest? I live with horrible narcissistic family that I would die if any ex shows up at my door, they'd probably invite him in or worse, verbally abuse me about turning him down or criticize me for that being the type of guy to "chase me".
Knowing this, my ex scrote I really dare say, I hate his ass. I was keeping breadcrumb contact with him to keep his ego in check cause I found out he had been seeing videos on reddit of rejections where the man shows up to his ex's door with flowers n shit.
Made me think he was possibly going to do something similar and I wanted to keep the line of communication open acting like we are still able to talk so he WON'T do something like that. Give him that false hope that I was cooperative, you know?
I know I might sound crazy or that it's manipulative but it's kept him away from my house and family unaware of my personal life. I can happily swipe away and resume my search for a better partner/situation.