When Men Call You Intimidating

Lmfaooo I guess he thought he could be my poly boss at some point. Big papa bear lol. As if..I make well over six figures and on an NYC wage here in the midwest and he's pandering uneducated at a min wage job. These narcissitic men are delusional af. Funny how he also complained about his financial situation on the date about how he's gonna have to work until his 50s to pay off his house and he might just sell it 😂😂 I was thinking yeah no you're not gonna ride my coattail of success and having me financing your side chicks, bum! He probably brought it up to try and get me to feel sorry for him and be his sugar mama.

That's why he's poly lolol, diversified sugar mamas :D

That's awesome for you btw. City-job wages in a smaller town definitely has benefits.

Lmfao! Yeah too bad these Townies are no match for a hardened former New Yorker. I can spot game in seconds and they're terrible liars here unlike on the eastcoast. These mamas boys need to run back to mama or at least get a real high paying job if they wanna play with multiple women. Any self respecting woman is not attracted to a broke dusty and him telling me he's broke didn't help either lol. I'm sure they lie and play the broke card to see if you're dumb enough to be willing to pay. And thanks I definitely feel like a high roller here and am basically in the top 10% of earners, which narrows the dating pool even more 😂😂

Lol as if he's worth getting approval from! I'd never want approval from anyone let alone someone who's doing worse off than me in life.

Lol hell yeah! They can't take the heat so they better get outta the kitchen.

I also moved from the east coast, to a big city in the midwest, to a smaller city in the midwest. Can definitely sympathize. If I have to date again, I'll be at least moving back to the bigger midwest city.

Wow it's almost the exact situation! Did you also experience the type of dudes I mentioned in the smaller midwest city? What is it about these turds that makes them think they're so special? At least guys on the eastcoast aren't delusional like this and out in the open about their intentions most of the time so if they want a hookup they have no problem saying it. They're way more straightforward and less sneaky like the snakes here.

I haven't really found there's a higher proportion of decent guys in cities, but at least there's more guys in general (and more money floating around so better chance a good guy is also stable). IME east coast guys are more out in the open/"it's feminist!" about their fuckboy ways, and the small town ones seem more wholesome at first. Like they'll talk a big game about how they're a man and want to care for their woman, but then in practice not really. About half the men I tangentially know here are actively cheating on their wives (though at least they're terrible at hiding it?)

Lol same, except married for twelve years.

Yes Queen!! 💖💖

Honestly the only reason a man says that to a woman is he knows he's full of sh*t and trying to use you, hence why he spatted that close to a breakup. They either say it when they know you won't let your guard down for them to be able to use you or when they're up to some sketch sh*t. Trust me it's these men it's not you. They're just projecting their dirt onto us women. They say that to neg us and get our heads spinning for their approval- if works doesn't it? That's why we can't listen to what men say because their words are 99% bullsh*t. And yeah he brought up the idea and if he thought of it he'd probably put it into action. That's why I let men talk and listen carefully because thoughts become actions etc. If he even uttered the idea it means he's thought about taking action on that idea. And I wouldn't take someone seriously anyway if they mentioned they're open to poly, nor would I take their opinion of me seriously either. Cause someone like that is obviously a hater or women and will say anything to degrade us and try and chip away at our self esteem so they can take advantage of us.

This is so true - I really wish I had found FDS when I was younger. Nothing in this life makes you internalize high self esteem and learn to read men as well as FDS.

I don't understand why you're stalking my posts? I'm well over this scrote. I'm just using different examples of what I've experience to come up with various topics of discussion. Narcissistic abuse runs deep and causes CPTSD in a lot of us survivors of it and also triggers us. There is also a deep spiritual component to this type of abuse which leaves lasting soul ties whether we like it or not. Anyone who's been through it can attest to this. Just move on and get over it is the worst thing to say to a survivor of a sociopath or narcissistic abuse or any abusive relationship and is straight up gaslighting.

When someone here makes either great or stupid posts/comments, it’s guaranteed that we will go and look at whatever else they’ve written. That’s not stalking, this is a public forum and if you don’t want it read and commented on, don’t write it.