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I'm wondering what is the best way to respond to a man who asks you on a date, but then asks what your favorite spot is? It feels like he's putting the ball in my court to plan the date, but on the other hand I can see how he's trying to be thoughtful by making sure we are going somewhere I like?
What does FDS think? This would be for a first date where the man is traveling to MY area to meet, so he has asked for my suggestion...
Tell him to F off. He’s seeing if you would suggest a coffee date or anything cheap. If a man can’t even plan a date on his own then don’t entertain him any longer. Never ever give a man the benefit of the doubt,
He should be asking you about your interests, hobbies and favourite things to do. Then he should use that information to research and find a good date spot and activity. It doesn't matter if it's a new area for him, he can check reviews and details online. Asking you for your favourite place shows laziness from him. He should be trying to give you new experiences, not reminding you of dates you've already had!
If you let him suggest a date location, then you will know exactly what he thinks of you sooner than if you suggest a date location and he acquiesces.
Put the ball in his court and let him show you his intentions.
Something similar happened to me recently. A man asked me out on a date. I said yes because I have not been on a date for almost 2 years. He proceeded to make me plan the whole thing (even reservations). He even told me to take my time planning lol. Omg I was so disgusted. I stopped talking to him. Then he called me, faked not understanding the restaurant we were supposed to meet up ( there’s this thing called GPS buddy). I had this gut feeling and called my friend, and she was like yuh listen to your gut buddy. I cancelled within 30 minutes. I got an “okay”. Next day, he apologized because that’s not how he usually is and blamed it on the Al-al-al-alcohol 🎵. lol 😂 I did not respond; it was an instant block.
My question to you is, was he drunk when he proposed this? Cuz no one in their right man would ask a girl out, and make her plan the date.
A man did this to me once, I told him some of my favorite spots, and he took OTHER WOMEN THERE ON DATES