that male attention is important and necessary for my self esteem - being desireable is not all that. i'd rather be desired by one HVM than by tons of LVM. my self worth now is placed upon other aspects of the person i am.
that the fact that i can do it means that i should do it (i'm referring to the feminist expression "we can do it!") - i used to want to prove myself all the time. i wouldn't even accept men helping carry bags. i had to show them i could do anything. not anymore! i can do it, yes. but i don't have to. if a man wants to be gentle helping me with something, i'll take it (as long as i feel safe).
that casual sex is required for me to be a true moder adult woman - for a long time i tried to be okay with sex outside of a relationship, sex for fun, sex with semi strangers... nope! that is the worst idea ever. this led to trauma that i'll have to carry with me for the rest of my life. i hate sex because of that. casual sex is one of the most toxic ideas ever pushed onto us.
The constant need to post selfies to seek validation from audience. It’s gotten to point that girls are editing their pics to the point that they’re unrecognizable. Whole new faces to hide their insecurities. It’s so unnecessary. Especially, they’re doing it for meth looking ass dude.
Thinking that my appearance/looks matter at all. They really truly don't.
Avoid those who treat you like they do (e.g., excessive compliments, overly focused on body/appearance, missing the other important things in your life to comment on looks, etc). This is such a tiny, insignificant part of us that it shouldn't really occupy any space at all except for very specific, infrequent, occurrences.
Being able to answer the question "why do I deserve to be loved?" (mostly by my own self, but also helps when you're working on feeling like you deserve good treatment from men) with things other than "what I can give to others" or "what I can do for others".
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that male attention is important and necessary for my self esteem - being desireable is not all that. i'd rather be desired by one HVM than by tons of LVM. my self worth now is placed upon other aspects of the person i am.
that the fact that i can do it means that i should do it (i'm referring to the feminist expression "we can do it!") - i used to want to prove myself all the time. i wouldn't even accept men helping carry bags. i had to show them i could do anything. not anymore! i can do it, yes. but i don't have to. if a man wants to be gentle helping me with something, i'll take it (as long as i feel safe).
that casual sex is required for me to be a true moder adult woman - for a long time i tried to be okay with sex outside of a relationship, sex for fun, sex with semi strangers... nope! that is the worst idea ever. this led to trauma that i'll have to carry with me for the rest of my life. i hate sex because of that. casual sex is one of the most toxic ideas ever pushed onto us.
Having a husband and children is life’s end goal.
Love is sacrifice and pain, so as we women we must endure as the ends justify the means.
What do I say to all of this? 🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻🖕🏻
The hardest part is having people in my life that thinks like this.
The constant need to post selfies to seek validation from audience. It’s gotten to point that girls are editing their pics to the point that they’re unrecognizable. Whole new faces to hide their insecurities. It’s so unnecessary. Especially, they’re doing it for meth looking ass dude.
Thinking that my appearance/looks matter at all. They really truly don't.
Avoid those who treat you like they do (e.g., excessive compliments, overly focused on body/appearance, missing the other important things in your life to comment on looks, etc). This is such a tiny, insignificant part of us that it shouldn't really occupy any space at all except for very specific, infrequent, occurrences.
If you don't find a partner by the time you're 30, you're doomed to be single forever.
Being able to answer the question "why do I deserve to be loved?" (mostly by my own self, but also helps when you're working on feeling like you deserve good treatment from men) with things other than "what I can give to others" or "what I can do for others".