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So I used to date all wrong. Kiss men on the first date to " lock them down", then get hurt if they still wanted to see others. Now, I have decided I won't kiss until they commit to me and don't plan other dates.
However, I still feel like I am not intetested in dating men who are in the process of courting others. Especially if we are talking all day and it's then leading nowhere. Now I know we shouldn't talk too much on the apps, but I don't want to plan a date with a guy or travel if I am unsure if we will at least have things to talk about. And once I spent several days chatting, I end up annoyed if they cancel the date last minute because they met someone else. How to proceed in a non-pickme way? Ideally, after two or three dates I would like to kiss to see if I feel attraction, and them talking to others would ruin me.
Also, I do not plan to date until I am healed more and have a fool-proof battle plan. Just trying to fill in the gaps here.
I would not kiss until the end of the 2nd date (only if it’s obvious it went well), but ideally 3rd date.
People love to rush things these days, but what they dont realize is the faster something burns the faster it usually burns out. There is no rush. Delay things for as long as possible so it gives him the chance to fall for you and show his commitment. If he dips because he didnt get kissed then he wasnt the right one anyway.
I believe the best relationships form when you’re friends first, which is why dating apps fail so miserably. When you meet organically (e.g at school or an event) there isnt this urgent expectation that you need to form a romantic relationship (like what dating apps do), so what I’m getting at is you have to try your best to mimic this with men you meet.