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I dated and got engaged to a guy who I thought would be my forever (lol).
He was great initially (emotionally attentive, made the relationship official after a few weeks, took the financial lead even though I didn't ask him to, eager to resolve differences, willing to work on his porn use, said he valued me and respected my standards) but he couldn't keep the mask on longer than 1 year.
Standard scrote behavior - pornsick, sex obsessed, kept pushing my boundaries and values. He proposed to me when I was 30 and a few months later emotionally cheated with his ex, said he wasn't ready for a relationship or marriage and couldn't live with the guilt of failing me. The relationship ended.
The ring was $300 (probably a bad sign but oh well, we were saving money for a future home).
What should I do with it? I told him I needed 6 months to heal from his terrible behavior and then I would decide what to do with the ring. He asked me to mail it back to him because he was too scared to face me in person but I don't want to let him get away with this poor behavior so easily. I'd like him to pick it up in person when I'm feeling great and have moved on OR I can keep it as a physical reminder of the lengths men will go to use women so I can make smarter decisions (sometimes I forget and romanticize the relationship).
What would you do?
Sell it
Tell him to send a pre-paid Fedex package for you to ship it back in. If he does, send the trinket back. If he doesn't, throw it in a lake
Sell it and treat yourself with that money 💰
I would sell it or find a way to give it to charity. Something that reframe its meaning.
That ring belongs to you and you can do whatever you want with it. Sell it if you can! That’s what I’d do.
Honestly I'd just give it to a mutual friend to give it back to the ex unless you really really need money or something. I wouldn't even want the money or hassle of selling it. I'd just want to wash my hands off of and get it out of my sight ASAP
Just for next time, a few weeks is awfully soon.
bury, burn or drown it.
I’m still trying to figure out what to do with my wedding ring since my divorce last year. I’m probably just gonna throw mine out, I’d recommend blocking him and probably doing the same.
Take a picture of it b4 selling and place it in a never again collage or something
Pawn it