What's your definition of cheating?

I'm less interested in defining the word in rigid terms than I am in determining whether his behavior makes me uncomfortable. Are we in an exclusive, declared relationship? Okay, that means that I expect him to respect my status as his girlfriend and uphold his responsibility to be honest and forthcoming about his interactions with other women. I also expect him to (correctly) understand that messaging other women, texting them, chatting them up, flirting with them or leering at them (especially in my presence--instant dealbreaker!), is LV behavior.

We've all had some sleazy married or unavailable guy send us a private message or text us randomly. We all know his wife or girlfriend wouldn't be okay with it (which is why I usually screenshot those attempts at drawing me in and send them to the wife, if I can find her contact info).

Men know what cheating is. If they have to rationalize what they're doing, they know they shouldn't be doing it and that's good enough for me. Block, delete, sail on without a second thought about them.

The litmus test for appropriate behaviour - if they'd do it in front of you if you were standing right next to them.

Any behavior that makes me feel anxious, self conscious, less important or special, not prioritized etc. and I’m out- who cares what he is doing and with who? If you aren’t feeling right there is a reason. That’s enough for me.

If I did it and he's mad, then it's cheating.

I simplified my definition of cheating to:

"anything you wouldn't do or say infront of me with the opposite sex" and 'anything you wouldn't be okay with me doing/receiving or saying/ hearing to the opposite sex"

An example of how to apply this "Also flirting with other women constitutes cheating to me and I would promptly leave"

Another important thing to remember about cheating is men will pressure you for things you (& secretly they) consider cheating because they believe the tables will never turn on him. If man a keeps insisting on a 3some, I don't care if you consider it cheating and would never want one, just respond "sure, as long as I get to pick the guy 💅"

He will never ever ask for a 3some again most of the time because as much as men will do everything in their power to manipulate you into letting them put their penis in another chick, right infront of you (3some), they will never say yes to letting another man put his dick in you no matter what is at stake (also 3some).

"cheating" = actively engaged in sex or a relationship with another person (this would include acts like kissing and generally being physically intimate)

"preparing to cheat"=messaging other women on IG/dating apps/spending time with other women behind your back (or men if he's bi)

"sleazy conduct"=leering, perving, going to strip clubs etc