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What’s with all the cattiness within FDS circles?! FDS should NOT be all “cult-like” (as in: if you’re against one thing, then you’re against ALL OF IT). If this supposed to be a self-improvement community, one should be able to take what works for them and leave behind what doesn’t.
Nobody shouldn’t be shamed for not agreeing for what doesn’t work for them. And especially, not getting called “pick-me” nor having their (perfectly good) partners (that none of you know) called “porn sick scrotes” (especially when you have no idea how things are going on behind closed doors).
There’s way more about FDS that I agree with than I disagree with. However, the stuff that I disagree with shouldn’t be a matter of “if you’re against this/that, then you’re against all of us”.
We have basic rules and principles here that were sent to you as part of the welcome email.
If you promote those items on the forum against everyone’s wishes, you’ll get dragged and tagged and possibly banned.
Please familiarize yourself with the rules. These aren’t negotiable.
https://www.therealfemaledatingstrategy.com/forum/forum-rules/a-non-comprehensive-list-of-controversial-fds-opinions-updates-in-progress
I keep seeing posts like this one every week? You don't need to have us agree with your life decisions; live your own life as you please, but why come on here and demand everyone else to change their minds? If I met a guy who didn't agree with some of my standards and demanded me to change to make him feel better, should I? FDS is about having standards and sticking by them, not constantly changing our minds because it makes someone else upset; that would just show a lack of strong values and character. If you think this is a cult, then that is your prerogative. You don't have to hang out here if you don't want to. There are so many other forums out there that might align with your personal values better.
God, did you write this before or after you left those defensive posts about how your husband isn’t porn sick on a completely unrelated post to yours? At this point nobody’s going to care when you come off so defensive. Just makes the point.
Lol.
This person has brings-down-the-team-on-an-assignment energy. Have you even understood the handbook? Do you read this forum regularly? Are you looking for sympathy? Fishing for likes?
You don't have to agree with everything. It's just frustrating when someone asks for advice and the advice isn't what they want to hear so they argue about it.
I never liked places/groups that didn’t like dissent or simple agreements to disagree. That’s how cults start.
Edit - the porn sick thing is disappointing, but I still stand by my statement