What is your stance on Prenups as HVW?

Non negotiable. Marriage is a contract, so you want to ensure you're protected. And it's a great HV test. Your future husband SHOULD want you to be protected and secure no matter what happens

I am very for them. I think they are incredibly important depending on what you bring to the table- property, businesses, family wealth, personal assets, etc., but even if you don’t come into a marriage with any of that, you’re in a better position to negotiate before things turn south than after. Your partners negotiation skills, reaction to a prenup, and evaluation of your worth will also be insightful information into who you are about to marry. A good goal is to protect assets brought into the marriage. Share assets generated during, for both parties. A prenup can help ensure this happens should a marriage end up in the worst case scenario.

I won't get married again without one, and I think my (seemingly HVM) boyfriend feels the same way. We'd both be bringing premarital assets to the marriage and I'm not interested in losing mine in a divorce, nor do I want anything from him that we didn't build together. It helps that we earn similar incomes and have similar financial profiles.

Prenups could guarantee you get more than enough compensation (just not 50%) and also protect your current or future assets otherwise he would automatically get 50%.

After my divorce - no prenup and so much loss - I have been considering and wanting a clause in which I end up with 90% of all assets (joint and separate) if I have children with a future husband. Is this insane? Ultimately my views are that you get married with the promise to stay together for life so having a ”nuclear” clause is a nonissue outside of recognizing and providing security against a misogynistic and unsafe world against women - that way I’d feel free to love and give as fully as I want to with my husband without fear.

They are an absolute MUST. I used to think it showed lack of commitment to have one but I was young and silly lol

Prenup is a must. Shop around for your attorney and/or get a good recommendation from someone you trust. Learn about the laws in your state and be sure you are thinking of the worst case. There is no nuance in divorce. If we are talking about legal docs please also make sure you have a will, power of attorney and health directives too.

Oh I’m so for them. I used to be so against it and thought it was “unromantic” and showed “lack of commitment” to have a prenup. But it is just the opposite. I think it’s so important to protect yourself going into marriage. I agree with the comment above about a clause that if you have children that certain percentage of single and shared assets would go to the women.There is no way I would take that risk birthing children to not have that security if anything were to go south. Men need to recognize the financial commitment it requires to be married and have children. They get off way too easily and honestly makes it so much easier for them to start and have a second family. A HVM would want you to be protected and feel safe going into the marriage. Thus he would be supportive of a prenup as well as any other legal clauses that would allow the women to be secured, safe and comfortable