What is the FDS stance on single men who have had vasectomies?

I wouldn't automatically see it as positive or negative. It's a voluntary medical procedure and his motives matter. If he decided that he doesn't want children and is sure he never will (for whatever reason) it seems like the logical, responsible conclusion, because why wait longer and risk it?

But there are still a lot of scrotes around who get vasectomies with the whole misogynist "no evil, scheming woman can babytrap me then" narrative and use their vasectomy to pressure women into unprotected sex and get even more whiny about being expected to use a condom than other men. If it's a man you are dating I would watch very closely for signs of this. If it is not his idea to use condoms at least until you are in a long-term, committed relationship (ideally married) and both have clean STD tests, he's an irresponsible scrote. If he uses his vasectomy as an argument to sleep with you without a condom, he 100% did that with his previous sex partners, too, and you really don't want to risk that.

I lean towards it being a green flag. I'm also childfree and if I'm with a man I would expect him to get a vasectomy if we were having intercourse. I don't understand why a childfree man wouldn't if he truly doesn't want kids. They're way easier than getting your tubes removed/tied and imo even easier than going on any kind of hormonal birth control. You do bring up a good point and I like what the other commenter said about how those intentions usually expose themselves.

Vehemently childfree myself as well and looking to get sterilized.

this is why we vet men as much as possible to figure that out. If he gets a vasectomy because it would be less stressful for you then green flag but if he got one to sleep around then an intention like that tends to come up or be exposed soon considering community dick is always loud.

Does he truly care to be more responsible? Is he a responsible person with integrity in general?

I would bring up how proud you are that you are childfree and observe his reactions

He still gotta wear a condom tho

I'd see it as a positive. I don't take it as a sign that they are willing to sleep around, just as a sign that they really don't want kids.

Remember that many men will lure you in with the promise that they toooootally don't want kids, then claim that they want to pass their "legacy" (their PlayStation 4).

At least these men aren't creating broken homes. They are a bit more useful than the average man.

I am also childfree and see vasectomies as a green flag. If a man says he’s cf yet doesn’t have a vasectomy I can’t take him seriously because any man who is sure he doesn’t want kids will take the necessary steps to ensure he’s not getting a woman pregnant.

I mean, a man can be community dick with or without a vasectomy, so basic vetting will determine if he’s HV/LV. Also, it should be customary to be getting std checks before having sex with a new partner. If he’s got diseases I’d say stay faaar away.

If I were a man in the post Roe USA, particularly if I were in one of the new slave states, I would freeze my sperm and get a vasectomy. The cost is low - about $300 up front and slightly over $100/year thereafter.

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As a childfree women who has been used by too many men who pretended to also be childfree, I only will get serious with a man if he has a vasectomy. So, this would be the greenest of flags for me. I don't think most men who simply want to sleep around are the types to get a vasectomy just for that reason--most sleazeball men are uneducated on what a vasectomy entails and will whine about the idea of a doctor cutting off their balls or that they will no longer cum, etc.

By itself, I don’t think it’s any kind of flag. If he uses it as an excuse to not use condoms (despite men being superspreaders of venereal disease), that’s a red flag.

Neutral. It can be used for good or evil. Its reversible, so its like, whatever.

Honestly even if he got it to be "community dick" I'd see getting a vasectomy as a good thing although I'd still be grossed out by his reasoning

I'd be checking he doesn't have a hidden wife and family. In my country most men only get vasectomies once they have had a family.

To me, a vasectomy says that he's serious about not having children, he's courageous (in a way - a lot men would be too afraid to get this done), and he's secure enough in his masculinity that he wouldn't feel "emasculated" by something like this.

In my completely unscientific guess, most community dick never got a vasectomy and would never ever get one (probably would wince and cover their junk protectively if anyone so much as mention a vasectomy) 😆

Not that a vasectomy is any proof he can't also be community dick. Of course he still can be. But in and of itself - it doesn't tell us whether he is or isn't.

At the very least, it means he takes his sexual health seriously, which is good. Beyond that? You don't have enough data to know him or his motives, which is why you keep vetting.

Fwiw, I got sterilized a few years ago even though I was single. I saw it as preparation for a relationship.

I know of certain Scandinavian groups where men get it voluntarily or say that they did. Yet I have had my friends panic about being pregnant quite often. As often as getting your period everytime a day late.

So, I am always curious about how when you are supposed to have vet properly, then you are still unable to keep faith in this matter.

So, I decided to not date anyone who has even had this thought. And, I had to never date women. I put it in my 'extremes' bucket. Life isn't lived in extremes.

I'm cf as well and it's already near impossible finding childfree men but finding them w vasectomy and sexually responsible? It's easier to find sasquatch.

I unfortunately always encounter men that have vasectomy but already have children n don't want more but I don't want a man w existing kids. It's tough out here.

I am a childfree woman who got sterilized (tubes removed) in 2019 at the age of 19. And I personally would not even consider dating a man who wasn’t snipped himself. We just wouldn’t be compatible. I didn’t just walk into the doctors office and get my surgery the next day. No. I fought. I advocated for myself. I was determined and I got it done. So if I can get it done, a man surely can get a god Damn vasectomy if he’s truly childfree. I agree with the top comment though, if he’s using his vasectomy as a way to pressure you into sex, obviously red flag.

It wouldn’t make a difference in itself to me as I don’t want more kids and it’s not like I’m going to ever have sex without a condom again.

I feel like the sleeping around thing is just as likely if he’s fixed or not. even in a committed relationship if you get to that and he protests using a condom he is a douche anyway. It’s a boundary for me no matter what and even being asked to explain why would be a red flag for me. I don’t experience any more pleasure without one though, dunno if other ladies do. its also great vetting to see if he gets soft once he puts one on, it’s a sign he either isnt used to practicing safe sex or is porn addicted or both.