What have you learned about men from your dad?

My father’s actions heightened my standards to such a degree that I saw dating to be pointless due to the plethora of mediocrity that passed as my male peers.

i've learned to avoid them at all costs. sorry, not a positive thing considergin the date... but that's the truth. i grew up witnessing his violence against my mother and i'm lucky he never did the same to me. somehow he hates her guts. she might be annoying, but she never cheated, she never did anything bad to him, she was always forgiving, nurturing, a SAHM who dedicatesd her life to taking care of him and his children. he did not deserve all the violence.

Growing up, I witnessed my dad be physically and verbally abusive to my mother. I hated him. I hated my mom for not leaving. My mother had married once before and eventually left because her ex husband had tried to strangle her. My mom essentially taught me that dealing with abuse is "okay," and she told me that "she deserved it." My mental health issues as a child were dismissed because they made me "weak" and my parents were brought up in a manner where showing emotion was frowned upon.

I'm now well into adulthood and well separated from my toxic parents, but I respect my father now more than ever. Once he lost everyone on his side of the family, and once I moved away, I think he started to realize the consequences of his actions, and started to sober up and work on himself. He is still shitty toward my mother, but not physically abusive, and unfortunately my mother will never have the self esteem to leave. As much as that hurts, it's not my problem to fix.

My dad never was disloyal to my mother (in fact, she was the one to cheat on him because she is too insecure to just divorce). He is HV in the way where he financially supports her and fixes things for her, does the cooking, etc. My mom has none of these things going for her, and thus depends on him.

Whenever I was going through a breakup, my dad was always the one to tell me that I deserved better, meanwhile my mother would paint me as the problem.

My dad taught me to never settle for less. He taught me that most men are shit and just looking for sex, and that I should kick those guys to the curb. He taught me self defense skills and general life skills that women are typically taught to depend on men for. If not for my dad, I probably wouldn't feel confident enough to live on my own without any support.

I still keep my distance from my parents, but I'm thankful that their disfunction taught me what not to tolerate in my own relationships.

I notice that the modern males are just as lazy as him, I still remember how he was when my mother lived with him, Just a lazy roommate who doesn't pay the bills.

He crawls out of bed just to tell me to lower the volume of my show that I'm watching.

He had only one Job and that is take and bring me back from class, that's it and he was already whining that he needs to get up early and I'm old enough to do it myself while the mothers I know even bring and take their adult daughters anywhere they want, because they value their daughters safety and happiness.

Men find it more important to have children than be a father their children deserves.

He's so whiny about one simple task but wants to cheat with my aunt and have another baby with her.

this sh!t head has another kid from a previous marriage and he doesn't even buy her anything.

Maybe I'm cold but I have no love for my parents.

I don't love them, Mother is a pickme who bred with this man and allowed male family members in the house and a male relatives in his 50's was trying to start a relationship with me.

He was complimenting my breast development at 10 years old and tried to make several moves from 12 years of age.

I despise men, I don't like them in general unless they have proven they are the exception of the rule.

My dad taught me how to change the oil in my car, which is fun. He was better as a father of adults than of kids.