As we get older, there are certain things that we won't tolerate and have no patience for. It could be anything from men, friends, coworkers, and family. It could be anything from our day to day lives.
Lateness and flakiness when it comes to meetings and appointments. I never had any patience for that because I find it extremely disrespectful. And yes, even "only" 5-10 minutes late is late. Especially if you didn't give me a heads up as soon as you knew you were going to be late.
Explaining to people how I want to be treated is another thing. There are honest mistakes, but I am not going to explain very common sense things about how to treat people to anyone. You either get it right the first time or I don't need you in my life.
A small thing: loud music in bars and restaurants or at social gatherings. Loud music is for concerts and dancing, not places where people are trying to have a conversation.
EDIT: I just thought of a another thing: travelling like we are still poor students. We are all making decent money now, so no, I am not going to spend twice as long getting somewhere because it's a little cheaper, I will not share a hotel room with a friend, sleep in a hostel room with 10 strangers or in a sleeping bag on your cousin's living room floor, I will eat decent food in restaurants and not survive on stale sandwiches you packed... I could go on, but you get it. I'm not a wasteful person, but when I am on a holiday or nice trip, I want to enjoy it.
Oh my god the cheap travelling thing is so true!! The people who suggest those things usually have plenty of money, they're just stingy as hell.
I recently met a woman who had travelled around South East Asia with her (wealthy) husband, sleeping in hostels and only eating cheap street food. She wanted more luxury, but he insisted on keeping a tight budget. The man should have been ashamed to have his wife staying in a damn hostel!
Totally agree with the traveling thing, though sadly I've really never done much myself. I really want to, but I don't feel safe enough solo travelling and just haven't befriended any other people who are willing to spend money on it too.
It's so fun traveling solo as a woman and totally worth it! Once you start doing it it's easy and you never want to stop. I'd rather spend money on experiences andlearning about other cultures than spending it on a big house or material things. Ive also stayed in hostels to save money but they have a lot of nice affordable hostels with all female dorms. Ive backpacked solo around multiple countries and even in India and the Middleeast and there was definitely some harassment from men, but overall it felt empowering to show that women can travel solo too. I wish we could form a local sisterhood and travel together! I'm trying to find a community myself who's interested in traveling solo but so many women are married my age (early 30s) and have to get permission from their husband's first urgh
I don't have any patience for "fake" people. Those who are still preoccupied with social media likes and looking for validation on the internet, etc. The type of people who go to concerts and record the whoooole thing for Snapchat. Or the kind who wants a photo with you, but has to take tons of shots because they find something wrong with all of them. Like, just enjoy/appreciate the moment without obsessing over what other people will think...
Poor communication. If there was an obvious assumption based on context and they don’t clarify otherwise because they benefit from the assumption I made, or I try to talk about it to make sure and he avoids the conversation, they’re just a liar.
Sexual harassment in the workplace. I mean, I never had the patience for it, but I am now confident enough to speak up for myself, thanks to radfem and FDS.
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Oct 17
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We are on the same page about this. I have less than zero patience for sexual harassment.
I will say, though, that the one time I spoke up against sexual harassment in the workplace...I was transferred to a different location. Yes, management moved ME and did nothing to punish my sexual harasser. Maybe they gave him a mild talking to. I don't know.
In management's eyes, the problem was solved: I was no longer getting sexually harassed in my new location, and everyone could move on.
Every day, I am thankful I don't work at that job anymore.
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Oct 22
"What don't you have any patience for anymore?"
Liberals of any sort, in the U.S.
That's right. If I meet an American, man or woman, who claims to be a liberal, I next them. Liberals have surrounded and abused me my entire life, and I just won't tolerate them in my close social circles anymore.
Lateness and flakiness when it comes to meetings and appointments. I never had any patience for that because I find it extremely disrespectful. And yes, even "only" 5-10 minutes late is late. Especially if you didn't give me a heads up as soon as you knew you were going to be late.
Explaining to people how I want to be treated is another thing. There are honest mistakes, but I am not going to explain very common sense things about how to treat people to anyone. You either get it right the first time or I don't need you in my life.
A small thing: loud music in bars and restaurants or at social gatherings. Loud music is for concerts and dancing, not places where people are trying to have a conversation.
EDIT: I just thought of a another thing: travelling like we are still poor students. We are all making decent money now, so no, I am not going to spend twice as long getting somewhere because it's a little cheaper, I will not share a hotel room with a friend, sleep in a hostel room with 10 strangers or in a sleeping bag on your cousin's living room floor, I will eat decent food in restaurants and not survive on stale sandwiches you packed... I could go on, but you get it. I'm not a wasteful person, but when I am on a holiday or nice trip, I want to enjoy it.
I don't have any patience for "fake" people. Those who are still preoccupied with social media likes and looking for validation on the internet, etc. The type of people who go to concerts and record the whoooole thing for Snapchat. Or the kind who wants a photo with you, but has to take tons of shots because they find something wrong with all of them. Like, just enjoy/appreciate the moment without obsessing over what other people will think...
people who cancel plans last minute
men who don't take initiative
strangers asking for money on the street
hippies trying to make me buy their ugly ass shit
religious people
People who are willfully ignorant and don't want to learn.
Men.
Naivety.
Any form of negging or disparaging comments. Either hype me up like I’ll hype you up or get out of my life.
when im hanging out with my friend and they’re constantly talking just about their bf
helping others that don’t want to help themselves
ignorance by choice
hook up culture
Poor communication. If there was an obvious assumption based on context and they don’t clarify otherwise because they benefit from the assumption I made, or I try to talk about it to make sure and he avoids the conversation, they’re just a liar.
I do not have patience for :
Female friends who use you for entertainment because their boyfriend is out with his friends (again)
Having a meal with friends who's boyfriend / husband has to call to disrupt dinner, even though he knows who she's with, where she's going, etc.
Friends who want to video chat with their significant other and try to get you on video to prove they are with you. I always decline
Women that want to talk about their relationships and grandchildren
Women that do not have a sense of self beyond caring for other people
Political or social agendas that do not make sense to me. I don't care what anyone says.
Immature people.
Sexual harassment in the workplace. I mean, I never had the patience for it, but I am now confident enough to speak up for myself, thanks to radfem and FDS.
"What don't you have any patience for anymore?"
Liberals of any sort, in the U.S.
That's right. If I meet an American, man or woman, who claims to be a liberal, I next them. Liberals have surrounded and abused me my entire life, and I just won't tolerate them in my close social circles anymore.