Translation: 'I already know exactly where I want to go, i.e. nowhere, but I'm not going to tell you that so I can keep you on the hook and waste your time/use you for free sex and benefits until you get tired of my wishy-washy, non-committal shit and leave'
I want sex but I can't say that or a rational woman is going to avoid me. Let me build an emotional connection so that a woman will have sex with me and then I will ghost her or use her for sex until I get bored or find a woman that I actually love.
if you have gone out a few times, he’s seeing someone else he likes better and if she rejects him, he’ll be with you
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Basically treats her like an option on his roaster...no thanks.
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Nov 10, 2022
It means "I'm going to use you and get as much from you as I can while doing the absolute barest minimum, because I want girlfriend benefits without actually making you my girlfriend. I'll also pretend that, if you give me what I need and want and don't have any needs or wants of your own that you expect me to tend to and respect, I may reward you with the title of "girlfriend" one day. Spoiler alert: I actually won't though ;) ".
Leave those lazy, low-value fuckers where you find them.
He wants the privilege of the husband such as sleeping with you and have access to your time for free, breed with you but not the responsibility, Leech off you live in your house for free, use your resources for his own gain, Use you as a meal ticket and second mommy so that he can thrive while you pay for the cost.
Most men are like that. Yet we are seen as gold diggers by default.
It usually means they want something casual but are too afraid to say it, so they'll use you for a few fun dates and possibly sex for as long as they can. The only exception would be if he truly seeks a committed relationship and isn't dating anyone else, but wants to wait for the romantic feelings to develop naturally. This is very hard to vet for because many men will tell women what they want to hear. It comes down to your instinct and his vibe. Do you feel he's just one of those "chill" dudes, or does he seem present and invested in you but still taking it slow? If the context is OLD, this is just one more reason to quit the apps, most people on there are afraid of really focusing on one person because the options seem limitless. Also, let's face it, it's hard to develop true and genuine interest from an online profile and a few messages, but most of us DO want someone who will actively decide to pursue us for us.
For some, it's intentionally vague so that they can match with women who are looking for relationships as well as those who aren't.For some, it's honest. They're open to any number of outcomes. They're open to falling in love but aren't on a mission to find the one. Which is fine for them, you just need to decide if it's fine for you.
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"I'm looking for free on-call prostitutes casual sex with no expectation of commitment or investment needed. Free STDs included."
Translation: 'I already know exactly where I want to go, i.e. nowhere, but I'm not going to tell you that so I can keep you on the hook and waste your time/use you for free sex and benefits until you get tired of my wishy-washy, non-committal shit and leave'
"This" = his swampy community dick
I want sex but I can't say that or a rational woman is going to avoid me. Let me build an emotional connection so that a woman will have sex with me and then I will ghost her or use her for sex until I get bored or find a woman that I actually love.
It means "Run"
"I'm not gonna value you"
He wants to hook up.
OR
if you have gone out a few times, he’s seeing someone else he likes better and if she rejects him, he’ll be with you
It means "I'm going to use you and get as much from you as I can while doing the absolute barest minimum, because I want girlfriend benefits without actually making you my girlfriend. I'll also pretend that, if you give me what I need and want and don't have any needs or wants of your own that you expect me to tend to and respect, I may reward you with the title of "girlfriend" one day. Spoiler alert: I actually won't though ;) ".
Leave those lazy, low-value fuckers where you find them.
"I'm lazy."
He wants the privilege of the husband such as sleeping with you and have access to your time for free, breed with you but not the responsibility, Leech off you live in your house for free, use your resources for his own gain, Use you as a meal ticket and second mommy so that he can thrive while you pay for the cost.
Most men are like that. Yet we are seen as gold diggers by default.
Ignore me. I'm a waste of time.
It usually means they want something casual but are too afraid to say it, so they'll use you for a few fun dates and possibly sex for as long as they can. The only exception would be if he truly seeks a committed relationship and isn't dating anyone else, but wants to wait for the romantic feelings to develop naturally. This is very hard to vet for because many men will tell women what they want to hear. It comes down to your instinct and his vibe. Do you feel he's just one of those "chill" dudes, or does he seem present and invested in you but still taking it slow? If the context is OLD, this is just one more reason to quit the apps, most people on there are afraid of really focusing on one person because the options seem limitless. Also, let's face it, it's hard to develop true and genuine interest from an online profile and a few messages, but most of us DO want someone who will actively decide to pursue us for us.
"Looking to waste your time"
They're not sure what they want but will leave it up to you.
For some, it's intentionally vague so that they can match with women who are looking for relationships as well as those who aren't. For some, it's honest. They're open to any number of outcomes. They're open to falling in love but aren't on a mission to find the one. Which is fine for them, you just need to decide if it's fine for you.