For me if someone needs to add they are looking for a woman who is "drama free", that seems like a red flag. Do they mean to say they are emotionally stunted and can't deal with their partners emotions? *Most* people don't like drama (in the case of excess arguments or bullying), but some levels of drama are unavoidable as part of life. What does drama even mean to the men, is it drama that you have created? Is it someone who has intense emotions? I always swipe left when I see that, because it seems like the men are emotionally unintelligent.
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That they want a picked me fembot who has no thought, values, life goals that aren't 100% scrote friendly
My brother used to call any expression of negative emotions “drama”. It was gross, it was an attempt to shame women into not complaining about his negative actions.
Honestly, men are the most dramatic, emotional, immature human beings lol. When I see something like this, I know he is LVM who is probably lies, cheats and so dramatic.
It means he has no self awareness. It's like people saying they are stuck in traffic when in actuality they are the traffic.
That he wants you to accept his behaviour no metter what and if you complain about something wrong he’s doing he will say that he doesn’t want drama in his relationship and that he was very straightforward about that since the very beginning
He's **FULL** of drama. I once dated a guy who's online dating profile read, 'no drama, no issues.' HA HA HA. It was all drama and issues AND low effort and breadcrumbing. I was attracted because I don't like - you guessed it - drama and issues. What I finally learned (and I'm off online dating for more than a year right now) is that if a guy says, he's a good guy, or he's kind, or he's financially secure, or he has no drama, OR OR OR. They are projecting EXACTLY what their problems are. My therapist looked at me and said, "would you ever put any of that on a profile?" And I was like, no, why would I? Her response was that therapist stare which answered my questions and cleared this up. They're projecting all their sh*t right in their profile. Read it and swipe left.
It means he wants to treat you like shit with no repercussions. Anytime you are hurt by his behavior it's "drama".
So many people (men and women tbh) do this. It’s one thing to say “yeah, I’m kinda laid back/not very dramatic” in a casual way while speaking versus making a entire boast of it, thus implying he’s better than others at it. I’ve lived long enough to realize that a boast is often a lie. It’s someone seeking validation for something they don’t truly have and/or believe deep down. This is why (I think) so many drama kings/queens like to shout it from the rooftops - not only are they trying to convince you - they’re trying to convince themselves. Another good piece of advice I got regarding people was to beware of someone who constantly plays the victim but accepts no personal responsibility, and/or continues to live in victim mentality. Its good for weeding out people that aren’t fully healed and thus are not ready for a real relationship.
Drama to men is "anything that's even remotely an annoyance" including "emotional stuff" like crying, personal dynamics not always working well together etc. Most cases THEY are the drama-causers.
He's full of drama himself (a fair proportion of the time its projection). 2. He doesn't actually want a relationship where there's give and take, he just wants his emotional needs catered for and to leave you in the dust. I find its normally the later and code for "I want you to be rainbows and sunshine and never have any problems/issues of your own or ever complain whether about the relationship or other stuff no matter how badly you're treated".
It means he wants to be able to be able to manipulate/lie/cheat/abuse/low-effort the whole relationship without you complaining about it. That’s all It means. When guys say they want a drama free girl, they mean they want a girl who won’t pipe up when she recognizes abuse or low-effort.
You or any woman who politely confronts him on something in his mind is "drama."
It means two things... 1. RUN! and 2. Don't look back.
It means that he's full of drama. I knew someone like that who claimed he didn't need drama in how life but he was a real life drama queen.
And seriously what life doesn't have drama of ups and downs?