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I'm kind of frustrated right now. I wanted to stick up for the woman in the situation and my dad didn't like it. Here is the backstory:
It was probably 20 years ago that my brother was visiting a family's home. The family had a daughter who my dad's friend was trying to set my brother up with. Allegedly, sometime during the sit-down at the dinner table, the daughter got disgusted with the whole situation and walked out, not returning. Somehow, my brother was so revolting to her that she couldn't even sit the whole duration of the meal. Unfortunately, my brother is quite off-putting in appearance and demeanor, so this might have been what set this in motion. But my dad was saying tonight how rude the woman was for leaving the table and not coming back, and that she should have just stayed there at least until the end out of respect for her parents. I said that I can't pretend I wouldn't have been tempted to do what she did, but my dad didn't care for my response. To be honest, I kind of admire the gumption of that woman to stick up for herself and not tolerate shit.
Neither I nor my parents were there at that get-together, so I am only going by what my dad said, who himself is a secondhand source of information (or maybe third?).
Good for the woman, I admire her action too. I hope her parents are good people who understand her.
Don't waste your breath trying to explain something when the recipient clearly doesn't wanna hear it or is not interested. You'll just lose precious energy that could have been used to something productive. Let him have his opinion. The woman was right to leave the uncomfortable situation, that's the truth and that's all that matters. I have to say though, it's been TWO DECADES and your dad still thinks about it?? That's insane. She left an impact on your dad! He probably admires her guts too but won't admit it. 😉 I admire her too, she's an inspiration!
Same thing some-what almost happened to me. My LVM brother made a new friend at work and my family were trying to sort of set him up with me or plant the seed of idea in my brain that he would be an option. He's not my type at all and zero attraction, the dude is kinda dumb and has shown LVM traits. He barely has a HS diploma. We are in our 30's. I have talked to him as he was in the house, just hi's and bye's.
My mom kept trying to talk him up to me like she thinks hes a good suitor for me, I was disgusted. She only thinks he's good because he's nice to HER, with basic platitudes like saying "hello" to her. My mom is the queen of pickme, has low standards for what she thinks a good man is for her daughter apparently. She swoons over anything he says.
I ignored it anyways but I feel bad for the woman in that situation. Why did your dad think she has to sit and be uncomfortable, waste her precious time to pretend to be "respectful" to the parents when they're trying to play mini-match maker with an unwilling participant?
Is this going to be common now where parents are trying to sell their daughters off to scrotes for two goats and a cow as long as the parents get their LVM son a gf and get something out of the arrangement?