So I have been getting to know a guy for a month and he drove 6 hours to see me, which I appreciated. Something did bother me quite a bit. He ended up telling me not only did he have a onlyfans but he had videos of him and his ex having s*x on there and then sends me his link. I mean if you like someone why would you want to see them have s*x with someone else. I basically asked if they were broke up why he had her on there as his profile and why the videos were on there. And he said he would delete them. Days and days go by and it's still on there and it is to this day. Should this be a deal breaker if he's not my boyfriend yet? This tells me he's not over his ex.
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I think him not being over his ex is the least of your worries. This is an absolute showstopper.
Please read the handbook.
Men like this give me human trafficker blairing sirens 🚨🚨🚨. Either that or he records women having sex with him without their permission. How do you know if she actually said she is okay with it or if she is even aware of the videos being online (or existing)? How do you know if she wasn't coerced into it?
Even if she did say she's "okay with it" it's because she has mental health issues or an extremely low self esteem. (That he took advantage of) If a pick me breaks up with a man/goes no contact thats a major 🚩🚩🚩🚩 It mean's he likely did some severely abusive stuff or crossed one of the few bare minimum boundaries she has.
Theres no such thing as ethical porn.
It does not exist. Run. Idc how physically attractive he is, whatever promises he makes, whatever sob story about his "crazy exs" he gives or how much he lovebombs you. (Look up Lover Boy Method)
Run as fast as you can 🏃♀️ for your own safety. No man is worth the possiblity of being trafficked or having videos of you taken and spread. Negative value men will say literally anything to get what they want. (Even with all kinds of made up details)
https://www.learning-mind.com/habitual-liar/#:~:text=How%20to%20Recognize%20a%20Habitual%20Liar%3F%201%201.,...%207%207.%20They%20argue%20with%20you%20
Male interest is cheap and abundant. There are billions of men on this planet. Don't risk your safety for this bs.
Block and delete. Love yourself more than any man because your well-being depends on it.
Would a man give a woman the benefit of the doubt if she told him she had an OnlyFans and showed him videos of her ex? No! Most men would brutally laugh at her, shame her and tell her to F off. He'd also likely send the page to her family, friends and boss.
A man would never do the same for you if the roles were reversed. Don't do something for a man that he would be unwilling to do for you. (ESPECIALLY things that could put your life at risk)
Deal breaker. He probably Looks for a Woman to do porn with/ pimp out on his Only Fans.
People really should read the handbook before they ask some of these questions.
Block and delete.
He has an onlyfans account. What a huge flaming red flag.
I mean, do you want to ride community dick?
What an absolute fucking creep.
Nevermind the obvious porn-sickness, which is an insta-Block'n'Delete, but he wanted you to watch himself having sex with his ex? What a fucking freak.
This tells you he's a pornsick scrote who might have been profiting from revenge porn done to his ex. Whether or not he's over the ex is literally irrelevant with this one...
Definite red flag...even if he's over his ex, that's f***boi/community d*ck behaviour.
Lady, he is making porn, sends you videos of him having sex with other women, and your main concern is if he is over his ex.
Girl, this would be a red flag for ANYONE, it’s absolutely not an “FDS exclusive” type belief. I’m not dragging you because I know we’re all at different points in our journey but please know you deserve so much better than this man. 💕
I see it's already been said, but I have to say it once more: Sis, read the handbook.
OF COURSE ITS A DEAL BREAKER. Wtf. The bar is in hell.
Run. He is not looking for love. He is scouting for women to film. It is very common for SWs to film their personal sex life for viewers. Nothing gets men off more than watching there favorite SW have a one night stand etc.
If a man has an OF account dump him immediately. This is FDS 101.
You are concerned about his ex? Who might not be his ex. Ok. What about the thousands of females AND males,mostly males I'm sure, who are watching his OF, which makes him ok with being bisexual. I'd be worried about what men he's fucking. What girls he fucking. Everything. OF is a NO.
Girl bye
Tell his ex