What do you ladies think of my profiles? (If not allowed, I'll delete) 3 pics

Too intense. Choose more light hearted prompts. For the Greek dating profile don’t say “please do not waste my time”. No hvm should. All you need to do is vet. Don’t give info they can use to fortify deceit, by pretending they’re what you want. Also shorten the profile.

Remove the mentions of narcissism. Don’t ever provide hints that you’ve dealt with any sort of abuse, and that you were impacted by it.

the self summary content is likely to attract narcissists. the fact that you put so much effort into writing all these suggest that you are very emotionally invested into finding someone through the app. all these details like what you’re allergic to tell me that you are craving for someone to understand you deeply. if i’m a guy and i want to play you, i would have the impression that daily gentle concerns for you and showing my sensitive and considerate side will hook you in. unless you are a teenager, telling someone you’ve never been on an airplane tells me that you’re likely not well to do and definitely not well travelled. it also tells me your family have never taken you on a vacation. i will spend a bit more on you at the start to show that i care about you. the fact that you come across a bit harsh at the end “please do not waste my time” tell me that men in the past have wasted your time - while you’re probably guarded, you’re craving for someone to pierce through those walls and show you this guy is different. with that context i will lure you in by being more patient in my pursuit.

This is total narcissist bait. I urge you to read "Not Your Mother's Rules" and pay close attention to the chapter on making OLD profiles. Keep it short, sweet, cliche, and vague. Most of them aren't reading anything you wrote anyway; they're just looking at your pictures, age, and location to determine whether you would be a convenient person to have sex with. HVM will most likely be turned off by the over-sharing and your profile will have given LVM and especially NVM a perfect roadmap for exploiting and manipulating you.

Don't do the profile prompts at all. Don't answer any questionnaires beyond the bare basics about where you live, your age, and a vague reference to your job. Don't say exactly where you live or grew up; try to make it really hard to dox and track you down in real life.

"Greek [profession or hobby description, i.e. accountant, teacher, runner, musician, art lover, etc.] living in the city. I love long walks outside, cooking and baking, spending time with friends, and [favorite cuisine]. Looking for a great guy with similar interests who can make me laugh."

That's it. Remember that you are putting this information about yourself out there in a totally public forum--you wouldn't put all those details on a men's gas station bathroom wall with your picture, so don't do it in any online profile. The guys whose type you fit or who like your pictures will contact you wanting more information. Make them dig for it; don't overshare and don't make it easy for them to know what motivates you, because that's how narcissists get their hooks in. Don't text or chat with a guy for more than a couple of days without him asking you out. Don't tell them where you live, go to church, went to school, etc. until you have known them for a while. Vet, vet, vet. Please stay safe.

Keep it short and don't give away too much info they can use against you (you like baking and walking in a park so they'll low-ball you). Something like the short, pun-filled blurb gives them enough bits to make conversation, but doesn't reveal much about you. Plus, it's a test to see who's witty back, who can take a joke etc.

It's all Greek to me!

Late to the online dating party, but feta late than never. I'm introverted and allergic to cats, apollo-gies if that ruin-s any cat lady jokes! I've never been on an airplane but would be in a minotaur for the right trip.

Don't add. -That you are new on bumble -Or where you were raised Keep it simple. "Hi, my name is ________. One of my biggest passions is _______. In my free time, I like to do _______________. In a partner, I'm looking for _______ (don't reveal all your cards). Let's chat."

I understand you're trying to put as much information about yourself on there as possible, but what immediately struck me is that you're showing your hand a little too much. Too many statements on how to avoiding hurting or upsetting you, and sadly, LVM will NOT take those to heart, AT ALL (worst case they'll actually use those against you), and HVM would never even think about making you uncomfortable (for example by dragging you to the club when you're the introverted type). Of course we all want a man who will understand us, take our feelings and needs into account, not manipulate us, be serious about us, etc. But that's for YOU to vet. Don't count on shit men to select themselves out, that's exactly what they DON'T do, because they're entitled af. I'd say you can keep some of the details (like being allergic to cats) as sort of "fun facts", but pick those that don't reveal too much. You only reward promising prospects with getting to know more about you. That being said, you sound like a really sweet, sensitive, smart and thoughtful person and I'm sure you'll find someone who sees that, and you don't have to put up an ice queen act if that's not who you are, but you can be a little more selective about what you show to the public. ETA: A good tip I often use when writing about myself is that I put more emphasis on what I DO like versus what I don't. For example, "I like browsing the latest novels from X genre at the bookstore" or "I always look for new art museums to visit" or "my perfect Sunday includes a long hike". This states your expectations and the types of activities you enjoy while also showing that you already do those things on our own, so a man who wants to impress you needs to either keep up with that or find a way to make it even better.

Thanks for the suggestions! I will definitely rewrite this a keep it short. I may answer different prompt questions as well.

I know nothing about online dating but think you sound adorable! Plus Thalia is a GORGEOUS name. but I agree make it shorter. Cut out the don’t waste my time or yours (coz who CARES about their time they are online trying to find a girl like you). say you love hiking, dogs, someone who makes you laugh and your large family. that you are interested in travelling because you want to explore your multicultural heritage and a native New Yorker (implies a certain sort of take no shit attitude). xxx

This is so cute! I love all your prompts, you answered them perfectly. If you were a man I'd get a giant crush on you just from these answers lol