I saw a video of a girl that was talking about her ex. She said she had to initiate everything dates, texting, furthering the relationship etc. She also went 50/50. She mentioned during the relationship he praised her for being low maintenance. He also mentioned his previous ex gf was so much more high maintenance that he had to get a second job to afford her lifestyle. The woman in the video also mentioned she knew the ex gf from highschool and that every boyfriend that woman had did a lot for her because she expected it. She then said it's clearly better to be like the previous ex gf because you get more. My only caveat is that I don't find men that lowball people that will accept it, good men. It just screams bad character to me. I also just find it's not genuine. He wasdoing it because he has to in order to keep her. After they broke up he constantly talked about how the previous ex gf was so much work and he's happy that he doesnt have to work as hard. Again, is that not bad character? Just screams lazy and low effort to me. What is the point of having a man that has to face consequences to want to be a decent partner? Just screams no self respect to me.
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Yeah, I agree with you. There's an article here that says "No woman can magically fix your ex" that basically says the same thing. I don't believe in this idea that we "command" a certain treatment by acting low maintenance or high maintenance. A guy will either respect you by default or he won't. He will either want to make an effort or won't. Our only goal is to repel those who don't want to, not to change them or become the kind of woman they would want to make an effort for. Because that a) never lasts long anyways and b) rests on you continuing to train him like a dog and basically manipulating him into doing your bidding. These guys will get resentful after a while that their partner is "making them" do all this work. We want a man who doesn't think it's "work". Every time I tell my partner I need something from him, he accepts that it's my right to want / need it, no questions asked. He can miss the mark or struggle with some stuff like any human with human flaws, but he'd never say I expect too much of him or that I "make him" do things. He wants to be there for me and make me happy, so it's not a chore. He calls me princess / queen in an adoring fashion, he likes that I let him spoil me. Only weak-ass scrotes complain about a woman having standards. It's especially pathetic because most things that are called "high maintenance" are just the bare minimum anyways.
Yes it is bad character. But this is why Pickme Culture is so problematic for women. A man can and will swap a 'high maintenance' woman out for a pickme the second it feels too hard, or not worth the effort. A woman should never go 50/50 and should certainly never pride herself on being 'low maintenance' (ie doing all the work that he should be doing).
I know the answer but you are going to hate it.
Men don't like overpaying. I read a couple of men's unhinged dating books and there are always tips like, "Don't take a Taco Bell girl to a fancy place." and "Test her by offering her a free date and work your way up if she refuses. You wouldn't want to spend $100 on a girl that would have put out for free.".
Men are SO gross. Most men are scrotes and think like this. Scrotes want max male benefit.
Who would you rather be?
The 50/50 girl who pays him for terrible sex?
Or the girl he wanted so much he worked two jobs and he STILL brings her up?
The only difference is what a woman will accept.
Even if he bails on her, the high maintanance girl can sleep at night knowing she didn't sell her ass for a nickle. Men say it's US making dating prostitution but it's not, it's THEM. So if they are paying women, why not get paid the most instead of him laughing at you while saving for the next girl's engagement ring? No one gets an award for being the cheapest 🏆
You're right. He's trash.
We're looking for guys who WANT to invest in their partner, not put on a show then talk shit behind her back later.