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I settle for the bare minimum because I don’t Think HVM are easy to find.
Yes I know that you need to become a magnet If you want a man High in value you should be his female counterpart. But despite working on levelling up get an Ocean of scrotes.
My FDS bare minimum is. : Defend and provide is what he should be able to offer. Physically not fat or underweight but in good shape. Muscles are a bonus but not necessary aslong his weight is not embarrassing to look at. No diseases, No mental illness no conditions that make him a burden in the present and future.
His Personality should consist of not talking crap or disrespect towards me from anyone. Arrive on time and leave on time during visits and dates.
Respecting my efforts is a must He should value my time and not ask if his friends can join us last minute, he’s available for me and makes time for his friends not the other way around.
No criminal records and stays away from ppl or family members who did criminal activities.
No addictions. not even a harmless addiction.
And a disciplined lifestyle With great personal hygiene.
And most men offering themselves can’t even meet these.
But my question is how does a HVM operate, acts like and where to find them.
I do not listen to youtubers because their version of high value men feels like their own personal wet dream.
One golden trait is that he is even-tempered, gentle, and emotionally intelligent. He never raises his voice, gives the silent treatment, goes hot & cold, or is oblivious to others’ emotions. He can always be trusted to be emotionally and physically a safe harbor. His behavior and temper are consistent, predictable, and generous. So many men inflict their anger, bitterness, insecurity, or frustration on women! Don’t tolerate it!
HV men are honest and respectful, they won't coerce you or make you feel manipulated/used at any point, and they will break up before it gets to that point. As for finding them- girl if we had the answer there wouldn't need to be a dating strategy! 🤣 For better or for worse- finding men means going where the men are. So gyms, sports bars, trivia, sports social clubs (like a softball or bowling league) etc. Pick one that you can see yourself enjoying regardless of men. I found a rock climbing gym (it was recommended on FDS) and that has been great. Gyms are good bc they show a man prioritizes his fitness (and probably diet) and there are classes to help you settle in and make friends.
While no mental illness is certainly bare minimum, a big one for me is true introspection and emotional intelligence. Can he articulate what he wants in life, in a relationship, in society, and why? Does he care about my answers to those same questions? Can he accurately read my body language? Can he identify his past mistakes and how he learned from them? Does he understand the ways in which he is privileged? If there are ways he is not privileged, does he use them as excuses for poor behavior? Does he handle miscommunications and disagreement in healthy ways?
Then of course, actions which show he does truly understand those things. (Both actions towards his partners/friends/family, as well as the community at large/service workers/employees.)
Also calling out other men on their poor behavior. I've met 2 men in my life who do this.