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For me, one thing I realised about them is that a man asking for your number is not something to be excited over because they do this with any woman they find attractive. When I found out, it made me see that I or any woman a man does this to is not special to him. You are just an attractive woman he'd like to try his luck with, hence why he asked for your number.
I remember being at a party once and hearing of a lady that got excited that a guy had asked for her number.......only for me to hear, days later, that he had asked five other women at the party, for their numbers too.
What experiences have you had that made you lose faith in men as a whole and changed your opinions of them?
The maddona/whore complex that every man seems to have to a varying degree with no exception.
I yet to see any man who doesn't have this irrational misogynistic complex...
When I realized that most of them
1) marry based on timing and convenience and not love or any compatibility whatsoever - they'll act like whatever they think you want if they're intent on being settled and you're in their reach
(and cry about it later when they get tired of pretending and probably have an affair)
2) date and have entire relationships women they give zero fucks about just because they don't want to be alone or sexless or fold their own laundry
and finally, but perhaps most importantly in this insane lib fem sex pozzy dating culture,
3) would have sex with Quasimodo's less attractive cousin if she offered.
So, I feel entirely justified in not dating and being celibate for long periods of time despite the narrative that is strange and anti-social not to be chasing relationships - when men act like this, time and time again, why should we keep wasting our time? Why do we need to keep offering ourselves like sacrificial lambs to these guys?
If I'm going to even remotely risk upending my emotions and my PH balance, he better be damn sexy and/or someone I have an amazing personal connection with and actually makes an effort to date me. Otherwise, die mad and alone, scrotes. I'm done ✌️
That they're the "emotional" gender and not as rational as women the way they claimed to be. Everything makes sense from there on
Two things that really changed how I view them forever:
1) The harsh realization that men don't go out with women who have the capacity to actually care about them, love them deeply, are compatible/similar to them, etc, but basically the hottest woman they can bag ever, period. Between two women that he has to choose to be in a serious relationship, woman 1 is the woman who has a real bond with him, can open her heart to him and be vulnerable with him, and would do all she can to make him happy in life as a partner... and woman 2 who is a hot little number who can make his scrote friends both green with envy yet congratulatory to him on bagging such a young sexy thing, men will choose woman 2 any day of the week. After realizing this, I no longer believe majority of men have the capacity to actually love someone else for real.
2) The amount of married men who try to come onto me since my early 20s. They bring up their wives but I wasn't allowed to utter her name in the conversation because then it reminds them of the reality that he can't have me like that. I'm a good person in the sense that I would never try to mess other people's relationships like that. The thought of it sickens me. But these men have zero guilt about it. They think they deserve more women despite taking their vows to be with one woman forever. That's when I realize that men only see marriage as a social sticker to put on for other people's approval rather than something they really want.
I think when I got the way they view porn. It changed every cell in my body and my attraction to them completely. I am so much harder on them now because truly and honestly, I was a dumb bitch before who needed their approval
The fact that no matter how nice, cute, smart, Funny and respectful I was, I still couldn’t find a nice boyfriend. It was slowly dawning on me over the years and everyone told me that it can’t be THAT many men. IT IS ALL men unless proven otherwise!
They were wrong and I was right. They made me doubt my perception for years, and still try to now.
It wasn’t until I found FDS and started to truly take on the FDS way that I came to believe that I am not negative or cynical, that FDS is not exaggerating about the depths of male depravity and everything the mods, contents creators and what some other posters say is so damned accurate.
This is the one place women speak the truth. I am happy this forum exists.
P.S. yes people still try to tell me “give him a chance” or make excuses for men in my life. HA. It doesn’t touch me. My opinion is final.
In my 30s as my friends started to get married and move in with men and have kids, I have yet to encounter a heterosexual relationship when men do as much of the domestic labour and child rearing as the women in the relationships do, and yet all of the men seem to think they do more than enough.
Realizing they are always looking for new pussy, and will do or say anything for it.
I remember this one date when I remembered this. He was struggling to get me to date him after demanding we go 50-50 and manipulating me into admitting my lack of sexual experience. And I just looked at him, and thought, "He just wants new pussy. Just like G.L. Lambert said."
Another thing: they don't see women as anything but fuckable or not fuckable, even male relatives. Very, very few, maybe one will be a real friend. But don't count on them that way.
That's more like a topic for a book lmfao. It's too many. Since finding FDS I found confirmation of a lot of suspicions I had about men, but I always thought that was me being in bad faith or paranoid. For instance I had noticed they just settle for whatever is available and have no standards, or the fact that they abandon their sick partners and check out of the relationship after a child. They will deny this stuff with violence if you say these are trends. Other stuff I learned here though, like men's obsession with porn, the fakeness of male "friendship" and much more.
It took me a long time to realize that guy friends didn't see me the same way that I saw them. My pickme self thought I was so "cool" for being able to relate to guys "unlike the other girls" lmao.🙄
realising they lie a lot and apparently for no reason. that pretty much all of them enjoy porn and think that we owe them that kind of sex. that they are nice to women they want to fuck until they fuck them. ater that, they respect them even less. finally understanding that being honest with them in the hopes they'll return the favor is completely useless because they are selfish assholes. their desperation for sex. they'll d anything for it. their privileges just for having a dick between their legs.
i could go on for days unend with the list, but i'll stop here.
They are only nice in the beginning until they know enough about you to toss you aside for a more fun chick. The nice guy act always has an expire date. So watch out, If he's overly kind and attentive in the beginning don't fall for it.
1. When I realized none of my male partners had ever loved me. None of them, not even a bit. That each one was playing a part to get what he wanted from me (usually mommy mcbangmaid services, housing, or money). That hurt and trusting any man again will be damn near impossible.
2. When I realized how pervasive pornsickness is among ALL MEN.
How many men I've seen marry women they hate because they can't be alone. Many have openly gone into the marriage with a timeline for divorce.
How casual men are about lying to and deceiving women. They actually brag about it.
Also, seeing so many men monkey branch into their next relationship and/or boomerang back to any woman from their past who'll have them.
I remember in my 20s being shocked how many men would come crawling back to me and my girlfriends no matter how badly they'd nuked the bridge. I started blocking and deleting numbers even before I found FDS because I realized men will never delete your number for any reason and think you're a viable backup plan forever unless you cut them off at the knees.
FDS taught me that: some men don’t wash their ass. Some of them sleep in nests 💀
That most of them don’t actually give a shit about us and our problems.
When I realize that even the most attractive man ever probably does not wash his ass.....
They will promise you the world to get back with them, even promise to change everything about themselves, and you may take them back a few times, but they will never really change enough.
They choose themselves and they'll never choose you (or their own true happiness) even if they 100% agree that they should and that it makes sense for them to.
For me, It was realizing that many wanted a servant not a partner. Another bitter truth is how they can BS about a relationships: claiming they don't want one, ATM or they need more time to commitment and really they just want everything a relationship has to offer but not the commitment/exclusivity that's expected.
The biggest ones have been from my dad and brother. Brother can be, let's say, inappropriate with me, his sister. Both are massive jerks who never lift a finger for themselves, and are greedy for food. Mom is a pickme who encourages them. If she passes away before then both, I'm dumping them to live with each other, changing my address and leaving them both.