What are acceptable ways to drop the handkerchief?

I live in the world the way that it is, not how it “should” be.

No, we don’t have to show interest. But you seem committed to that so do you, especially if it is working.

I find it freeing to just go about my day largely ignoring men. Besides men are highly observant and if he isn’t approaching there is always a reason. (Usually he is window shopping or isn’t in a place to provide.)

The idea that a woman has to “signal interest“ isn’t bad or wrong but based in the context of a woman doing rather than being. I know it might sound “antifeminist“ to just “sit pretty and be quiet” but it works when men are highly attracted to you. Most men just want to sleep with you though which is why I refuse to put energy into handkerchief dropping. Also, it looks desperate to attractive men who can see this a mile away.

I don’t think you look desperate if you just smile at a man. That’s it. Just smile/give him a significant look and he’ll know.

I agree with the other users saying that man who will approach you without *you* showing some sort of interest first, is an absolute creep and I don’t want to have anything to do with him no matter who he is.

Then do it. 🤷🏽‍♀️ And also remember that very attractive men (which are rare) are accustomed to this behavior from lots of women.

FDS is about strategy so this prob WILL work for some women.

I’m employing a different strategy because I don’t want to talk to strange men. I want to meet men at networking events and through hobbies where I can be sociable but he will bear all of the risk of making something happen.

Also, my sister dated a very hot man for a few years so she and I got accustomed to witnessing how friendly women “appear“- from a big smile of interest (that turned to disappointment when they realized he wasn’t single) to throwing themselves at him. So my perspective is informed by this.