What activities that men partake in do you consider to be red flags?

-Being a Dj or a promoter - Gym rats I love man that’s is fit and takes care of his health but being in the gym 24\7 issa no - Guys that gamble - Guys that follow hella insta models - Wallstreet bros - If he is in a fraternity

Guys that are:

- into crypto

- follow Elon Musk, Jordan Peterson et al

- fantasy football (or religiously watches their football team)

- if he goes clubbing

My personal red flags are: * Watches certain TV shows that have too many porn-like scenes (GOT, Shameless, etc.) * Consumes any type of pornography (OF, following Instagram models, videos, etc.) * Definitely anime as well as a lot of it is inherently misogynistic. It’s so hard to find wholesome anime these days. Most of it currently caters to pornsick men * Along with anime, he’s a collector of anything very kiddish (cars, certain cards like Pokémon cards, figures, toys, etc.) * Weed and any other drug use * Excessive alcohol use * Fan of Jordan Paterson, Elon Musk, Joe Rogan, and Ben Shapiro * He’s into weird and kinky sex. BDSM. He wants to have threesomes or have semi-public/public sex. * And or, he basically wants to recreate porn scenes with you (which is a giant walking red flag) * He’s a gamer. Biggest red flags for games are that he is especially into FPS games or Rockstar games like GTA * Partying (as others have mentioned things like fraternities and night clubbing) * This may be a stupid red flag, but guys who are attracted to certain actresses. I never met a decent guy attracted to Emma Watson for example. Nothing against these actresses, but it’s something odd that I’ve noticed * He’s a fan of certain types of music artists like Kanye West or Chris Brown * He goes to strip clubs * Sexualizes everything or makes constant sex related jokes * Does not support abortions or respect women being pro choice * The basic ones like “he’s the nicest, chillest guy” * Has misogynistic friends. You are who you surround yourself with one-hundred percent

haven't seen this one mentioned yet but if he's too into history, specifically war. In the sense that he glorifies war, it just gives me mega psycho vibes uck

-Plays video games -Drinks alone/non-socially -“Sex positive” or “kink friendly” -Doesn’t respect your time i.e. being late, flaking, not answering texts -Anyone who describes himself as a “nice guy” -Name drops and brags about their “connections” -Has a dirty/messy home and poor hygiene -Excessive interest in nerd fandoms There are many others, but these are ones I’ve had direct experiences with and they are ALWAYS red flags for me.

I want to add having a preference for women who look very young or things associated with stereotypically female youth and childhood. When I was dating, I encountered a horrifying amount of men who complimented me for looking younger than my age (keep in mind I was in my early 20s - younger than my age meant looking like a teenager) or who even went as far as specifying me looking young was arousing to them. Their obsession with young looking women included not only my face, but also my hairstyles, clothing, skin tone, voice and assumptions about my sex organs.

I want to emphasise the issue here isn't women who look young for their age. It's the creeps who fetishise them and things like plaid skirts that are traditionally associated with female teenagers. It always felt like they were looking for someone to legally act out their pedo fantasies with.

Great list.

I'll also add these red flags because I keep seeing them on the first date:

- Plays the blameless victim game (narcissist alert!)

- Treating you as an emotional dumping ground ("Bro, we just met and you're already telling me about your fight with your mum? You don't need a date/GF. You need a therapist who enjoys a challenge.")

- Constantly late without texting you beforehand (this is so easy!)

Listens to Joe Rogan, only listens to male musical artists, marijuana use, too into sports, unproductive hobbies (or none at all), and you are spot on about anime. Huge red flag.

Conspiracy theorists. Guys that are too much into spirituality. Porn. Anime. Weed. "Funny" guys and their sex jokes.

For me, men with all female ‘besties’ is a big one. The last guy I dated like this used the women to feed his ego and I’m sure was just waiting to sleep with them if they ever gave him the chance. Hard pass.

-Not cooking, claiming to be unable to cook. Only eating ready meals and takeout as a result, or eating out for every meal. This man doesn't want a partner, he wants a mother and a personal chef. A slight variation of this is men who want to be applauded for making or serving the easiest, most basic meals.

The second I see they're a gamer I swipe left so fast I nearly lose my thumb

All of this with the addition of being obsessed with MMA/enjoying watching other men beat each other to a pulp.

red flag hobbies imo:

1. anime

2. hobbies In which he claims to need more than 2 monitors/giant curved monitor

3. if he listens to any male alpha podcast

4. gym bro/steroid use

5. all carnivore diet/ refused to eat vegetable or fruit

Porn, most video games (Nintendo or weekly gaming okay), Reddit users as a whole, Twitter users as a whole, men interested in "sexual assault victim advocacy/counseling" (predators)

- plays Dungeons and Dragons or Magic the Gathering - extremely cluttered or dirty home - has more than one roommate (he's broke, lazy, doesn't know how to be alone/needy) - only eats take out or fast food - plays excessive amount of video games - I also agree with wanting to debate everything...it's like they constantly have to assert power over you by trying to make you feel bad about your opinions.

he’s a momma’s boy or has mommy issues.

If he brings up his crappy past relationships unbidden or multiple times or gets into their dirty details.

If he can’t think of anything significant that a female relative (especially his mom or an older sister) taught him or introduced him to. Domestic things and kindness don’t count.

If he’s into spontaneous travel.

- Gamer (I am not a homebody in the first place)

- Doesn't have friends

- Doesn't have any hobbies or a routine on his own other than work - gym - home

- Doesn't know how to hold a conversation

- Flirts with waitress/hostess/etc

- Needs medication or weed to fall asleep

- Doesn't assume when he is wrong

- Can't have a friendship with a woman without second intentions

- Doesn't see a therapist

My ex did four of these things on your list. So super red flag. I think what he finds interesting to show you can be a red flag too. My ex once sent me a Kpop video of this girl group twerking and called it “classy”. He would also send me videos of animals eating and mutilating each other .

Agree! I just wanted to address the Speeding/Racing Cars point. The ones who do this give a bad rap to car enthusiasts. STAY AWAY from NASCAR racing fans mainly. And Drag Racing. This is where the egotistical bros flock, and you get the most PickMe fans. Vehicle racing is held in much higher regard and has a respected pedigree outside of the United States. There is a reason why European/Asian cars are desired here, versus USA made vehicles. For example, Drifting from Japan, Rally from Europe. I’m not defending men, I became a mechanic on aircraft for my early career and then vehicles. Vehicles became a necessity to learn because I don’t trust shops, and it turned into a hobby and I started to build race cars. Tl;dr: Beware NASCAR fans/Sports cars covered in Anime, or stickers/any egotistical bros. Certain types of MotorSports are respectable. Please don’t write off car people because this can be a hobby for us women too.