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I just wanted to use this space to vent and to remind ourselves of our value as women's
I matched with a man in his forties last week (I live in a rural area and work from home so few opportunities to meet men organically). Long story short his texts were so boring (multiple requests about my day) followed by an enquiry about meeting this evening.
Weather is lush here so when he suggested a drink I countered with the idea of heading to the local beach, particularly as he's a paddle boarder.
TODAY at noon he asks me if I'm still keen to go for a board. Red flag 1 - this should have been confirmed earlier in the week.
A few messages on he asks me 'what time was I thinking'. Like, dude... you're the one who has asked me out and this is your hobby. Why not pick a place/time in line with tide conditions. Why is the emotional Labour on ME FFS! He then suggests 6pm (so less than 3 hours' time) and something in me snapped.
I said I wasn't feeling his enthusiasm for a proper date, wished him well and blocked. Also deleted tinder (again!)
I have a few people in my circle suggesting I've been harsh (was I?) and I know my reaction is partly because I've had a shitty week with family issues. But also there is part of me that doesn't want an average evening with a passive dude in his forties who CANT MAKE SHIT HAPPEN.
I'm moving to a city for job opportunities next week and hope to up my dating game but this has really made me mad.
Would you have done the same?