We matched on OLD. We spoke for about 5 days and had great banter. And then I started feeling like there was some change in his pattern to reply(but also we don't know each other so not a big deal). Anyways the one day he takes 24h to reply and he's keeping Convo going and asked me a question and then said "here's my number, text me on WhatsApp, I'm not on here often" and I was thinking "wtf" lol, we were literally chatting everyday for the last 5 days and then suddenly he gives me his number and says he's not here often. I was turned off and never messaged him back or texted him. However now I'm wondering if I should have replied? He also didn't ask me out, just my number. Thoughts?
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To answer your question, "No you were not harsh in cutting him off". It sounds to me like he stopped putting in effort because he wanted you to chase him. Here at FDS, we don't chase men because we want men who are into us, not men who are with us because we're easy and make all the effort.
He never asked you out. He wants a pen pal.
Nah, he's for the streets.
You did the right thing. Probably wanted to get you on another app so he could send you photos that you definitely didn’t want.
“I’m not on here often”
What a loser.
No, you weren’t too harsh.
if your motivation to talk to him after that desappeared, i think you have your answer. don't let self doubt take control of your life. what is done is done. you felt icky about his behaviour, that might be your gut telling you he's not right for you.
No
I had similar and said I don't give my number out to people I haven't met in person lol
Men don't care when they cut you off so why should you?
I don't even give out my number to men from OLD I go on dates with. My rule is that if a guy doesn't ask me out within 48 hrs of initiating conversation I simply unmatch. I also am careful about not making myself too available (which was your first mistake! A week of texting is too much attention when he hasn't even paid for a dinner).
So no, you did not overreact. He risked losing you and he did. You wouldn't be this invested if you hadn't enaged with him so much. He was not the one.
Ding ding ding! We have a breadcrumber.
Well done on cutting him off. Now keep him cut off forever.
I'd imagine he's already married, hence not asking you out and trying to get you to chase him by giving you his number. He can't possibly be the bad guy if you contacted him first. /sarcasm
i might have responded to him if his last message would have been something like, "Hey, here's my number if you'd like to get off this app and maybe go out for lunch sometime."
this is how one of my LTR that i met on Tinder (aaaaaaages ago) got me to go on a date with him. he gave me his number, i sent him a text and he asked me out.
but this guy clearly can only handle a textuationship.
NEXT.