Vetting Question

Exactly. Isn't the sterotype is that lawyers are liars?

Now he knows how to get himself off next time he kicks some ass

Yes look at the Murdoch murders. He was a prominent attorney who murdered his wife and son.

Wow. That is scary. 😧

Ok ok 👍

Yes, and it's hard enough to get the police to take action about anything. Imagine how bad it must have been for him to actually get convicted. And then actually go to jail on top of that. REALLY REALLY BAD.

I don't think it's generalizing. Heaps of men pretend to be feminists because they'll have access to sex better.

I witnessed men doing this at the rally in my city, in real life.

Yes, just like DV males who are finally charged have done it hundreds of times before.

That's an important detail. Was his victim male or female? If he put his hands on a woman, he deserves to never enjoy the company of a woman ever again, totally, completely, with no exceptions.

Thank you 🩵

"It's up to his family and close friends to understand" . This is it. Maybe he's been redeemed. Maybe hes a great guy who will never hurt so much as a fly ever again. Maybe people who have know him since before the crime, who are invested in him and have a history with him where they feel like they have good reasons to believe that he's capable of being a decent person; maybe those people can forgive and move on with him. Maybe he's lucky enough to have a woman among that group of people who knows him very well and believes that he'd make a good partner.

But when youve just met him and all you know about him is that hes got a violent past, you *need* to reject him for your own safety.

He made a mistake, and no matter how he turns his life around, one consequence of his actions is that he wont be successful on dating apps with women who check court records. He did that to himself; do NOT pity him.

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Yup. And even if he wasnt a lawyer: if he beat up a woman he'll lie and say the victim was a man. There's a chance he sent a woman to the hospital, and OP, you need to block and delete.

Um working in the DA's office with a felony? I call bullshit. Please post an update when the full extent of his lies comes out.

Can't upvote this comment enough. When men lie, they only tell you a fraction of what actually happened.

When the hair's going up on the back of your neck or you're thinking, "That's a weird story", it means the truth is much worse and you need to run. Don't question it, don't try to find out the whole truth, just get out of there.

The loser who led me to finding FDS told me these half-assed stories when we first met. He "casually" mentioned in passing:

-That 3 of his ex-roommates had called the cops on him...

-That several "crazy" women from his past were stalking him (woe is him!)...

-That he was accused of sexual assault by one of his "enemies" to discredit him, but of course nobody took the allegation seriously because "he would never do that."

Yes, I made excuses. Yes, I was an idiot. And yes, I paid the price.

Turns out the guy was a manipulative liar who destroyed everything he touched. He'd ingratiate himself to a new social circle, use everybody like a parasite, then decide he hated them and start sabotaging people and driving wedges between them. He burned all his bridges every six months. One of his other victims called him a dangerous sociopath and told me to stay away from him. I later found out he tried to get me fired from my job. He was a nutjob.

And it all could've been avoided that first month if I took his weird stories seriously and didn't make excuses like "He made a mistake" and "Maybe it was a misunderstanding."

Now, I have no doubt his ex-roommates called the cops on him or that he deserved it. I have no doubt whatever happened, it was terrible.

Trust me, @nomi, you don't want to know the full story and you don't need to.

You never have to play the "what the fuck is going on here?" game with normal people who have nothing to hide. Liars show you the tip of the iceberg and it only gets uglier when you look beneath the surface.

Thank you

Don't waste your time googling his name. Forget him and get on with your life.

And your point is? You said in another comment that he didn't go into details with you, and that it came up briefly in conversation. So you really don't have a clue what actually happened. You are blindly believing what little this male told you, And it seems like you are already defending this person and ar trying to find ways to make his aggravated assault acceptable to yourself.

I don’t care about this person. This post isn’t even relevant anymore. I was just sharing some information so you understand aggravated assault isn’t necessarily with a weapon. I was educating you.

/s (you forgot this)

This has to be a troll comment from a man. I bet you wouldn't give your daughter or sister the same advice. OP will be on the receiving end of his violence. Whether it's in a few months or a few years. The majority of women who are murdered are killed by their significant other.