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Using OLD apps to find friends

Some OLD apps have a function that allows you to make same-sex friends. Is it as bad a OLD? I tried Bumble for Friends and just like OLD for men, I get a lot of matches but nobody would message me first. Even if I did message first, very few people would reply or the conversation would quickly die down.

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Stillillin

Feb 27

I haven’t tried it in some time but when I did: yes, 99% of the conversations would quickly die out, just as they do on the dating side.

fireforestfairy

Feb 27

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Yeah I guess it's hard to be friends with strangers when you have little in common with them.

Stillillin

Feb 27

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Theoretically, I imagine the more old-school (i.e textually freeform) apps (a là OkCupid) would have been better suited to this,

~ICE~C0LD~

Feb 27

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They’re just full of pick-mes.

fireforestfairy

Feb 28

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Yeah I sometimes suspect the women on OLD looking for same-sex friends are actually women looking for threesomes because their male SOs asked them to or lesbians. Some also give me the vibe that they are scammers trying to sell products.

~ICE~C0LD~

Mar 05

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True.

Even in the rare circumstance when you get “lucky” and find another real woman that’s genuinely looking for female friendships on an online dating app one of these two things will happen.

She’ll immediately throw you under the bus once she gets into a committed relationship. (You’re basically just there to entertain her until she finds a male that seems like he’ll sticks. You’re basically just a placeholder)
She’s a libfem or conservative “traditional woman.” That’ll leave once they realize you have opinions that allign with fds principles. (They may also gossip about you behind your back to their husband, libfems social circle or “guy friends”

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Unimpressed 🤷🏼‍♀

Feb 27

When I first moved to a new area and was trying to make new friends in my early 20s, my boyfriend (scrote I could have avoided had I found FDS sooner) at the time encouraged me to download Bumble because of the bff feature. I deleted it right away once I realized it was all lesbians (not that there's anything wrong with that) or women looking for a threesome. I don't know any women IRL who have ever used OLD apps to find friends either.

fireforestfairy

Feb 28

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Some women on OLD also give me the impression that they're scammers trying to sell products. It's all very fishy.

Soncha

Feb 27

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Just pick up a hobby and make friends through having things in common. I don't think OLD apps are a good idea.

fireforestfairy

Feb 28

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Yeah I think that's better. However, I've heard many hobby classes are filled with people who attend the classes as a group of friends and they aren't that open to making new friends.

erythrura

Mar 04

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I tried an app like this once when I moved to a new city and there wasn't a single woman who contacted me and didn't turn out to be one or more of these after a few messages...

a lesbian looking for a partner (use a dating app for that!)
a woman looking for someone willing to engage in some gross fetish with their boyfriend (BDSM, swinging, threesomes etc.)
someone trying to catfish you into sex work or something similar
using the app to recruit people into their scammy MLMs
using the app to recruit people into their religion
seriously mentally unhinged or a substance abuser and looking for free therapy, a mommy, a place to crash, someone to scam for money or an enabler
a desperate single mom looking for someone to babysit her kids for free
trying to find free pet sitting or house sitting
actually a creepy trans man
actually a creepy non-trans man
actually a underage kid (male or female) who has no business being on those apps in the first place

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Unknown member

Mar 02

I think this depends on your age and location.

I don't think trying to find platonic female friends online is nearly as unpleasant or dangerous as trying to find male romantic partners online.

Maybe I got lucky, but I managed to find a couple friends who had a lot in common with me in my early 30s. And if I'd relaxed my standards just a little, I could have found more friends easily.

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fireforestfairy

Mar 03

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Wow you really are lucky! I do agree that meeting women online is less dangerous than men. At least other women are way less likely to sexually assault you.

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Unknown

May 25

For friends in your area try meetup! You may even find women only meetups in your area.

Using OLD apps to find friends

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