My rant:
Some girls have been very friendly but out of all the matches I’ve had, only two messaged me first. I’ve unmatched with some who never messaged me after we both swiped on each other and I’ve experienced a number of them take forever to reply. A number of girls have clearly big egos seeing as their profiles say that you should message them first 🙄 A girl that I clicked with agreed to meet up with me but has gone AWOL and one of them is really boring and expects me to drive the conversation. I got tired of talking to her and told her to have a good weekend and take care a few minutes ago. She quickly replied to say that I must not want to talk to her anymore as people normally say “take care” when they mean “see you never”. I had to lie and just say that I literally meant for her to have a good weekend. She replied saying OK, that she misunderstood and said good night. I’m going to unmatch with her right away 🙄 I’m tired of people who barely have anything to say then when you have lost interest in talking to them, they get offended. I’m done always driving conversations. That’s something that has happened to me countless times when talking to people. I can see why she needs the app as she seems to be unaware of how boring and honestly entitled she is.
For the commenters on my post, you were all right. You may make friends but you will definitely encounter women that aren’t worth it and there is definitely more of a negative using the app. There’s even a subreddit that has women complaining about women on the app being boring, entitled and quick to ghost the minute you suggest meeting up or even after having met them in person. Many of these women must think that other women have to chase them like they’re men. It’s just a joke.
OK, rant over.
I've tried Bumble BFF. IMO it's almost as awful as Bumble dating mode. Most women never reply when I messaged them. It's also full of lesbians looking for love and/or sex.
I made a Bumble account over 6 years ago and the same crap was happening then. I had to do all the "chasing" like I was a man. No thank you. I see not much has changed.
Maybe just the act of swiping though people has the effect of making people feel more disposable.
It might also be a factor that people on Bumble are more likely to have created an account for the dating app first, then tried the BFF stuff. So it's more likely to be a pool of people who are more interested in dating than friendships.
I don't feel inclined to give Bumble anything, even profile information, after they showed their whole ass when it comes to what they really think of single women.
Meetup has been working pretty well for me. Probably because it's not an app that's designed to make you spend a lot of time on the app itself. Meetup is more geared towards meeting up to do things in real life, as a group. With any luck, you see the same people repeatedly over time, and form a connection with some of them. That's closer to how people usually make friends than Bumble's "pick someone from a profile" approach.
Good god this sounds exhausting
I havnt used bumble. I'm just curious - is bumble bff just for women? And do they consider men in dresses to be women?