Update: I didn’t let scrote that groped, split check, and not walk me to my car stop me from dating.

Right. Thank you! I'm glad about the date regardless of what happens. I def felt good the whole time. It never felt like he was sexualizing me, which is rare. He also asked me a lot about myself.

But there are reasons that I don’t see it going anywhere. He is not a big communicator over text, and he is very introverted. He is also extremely busy due to his career and I sense we have different lifestyle standards (little comments he made on money stood out). I would go out with him again tho, not sure if he’ll follow up with planning it bc he was telling me about his projects this week (he works in TV production) and I don’t see how he has time to date unless he makes a very good effort, so I’ll see it he does.

That all sounds fair enough. And yes, money compatibility is important.

Lol I heard that too. I talked to my therapist about how I am drawn to guys I know are no good. She said its my own commitment issues coming to light, and we worked through that.

I find this guy attractive, he is handsome and I like his vibe. And while the convo was easy and comfy, it felt like I was talking to a male friend. While I’m into him, I did not have that like underlying *thing* during the date. Like no butterflies or heart kinda racing a bit.

My main hesitance is money. I imagine he makes a little under me (I am a very high earner and top 5-10% so don’t necessarily demand a higher earner. BUT he lightly referenced money a few times. He has a 5 yr old (we're both older, me late 30s, him early 40s) and said how expensive it is to have a kid. And expense of other things came up. And I live so freely and lavishly. I do prefer a partner that is a littlr more financially reserved than me bc I don't like soending recklessly, like I sometimes feel that I do. But I also don't want sarcity thinking about money. If I want something, I'm gonna make it work and get the $$ to do it. If I want a kid, money is not a factor I'm considering bc I'll make the $$ to do it well. I understand everyone has a different mindset about money but I would not want to be around someone who thinks money at the level you need is unattainable. But it was 1 date, so who knows.

Yeah talking to a male friend is not a romantic vibe. The money thing rubs me the wrong way too. You can go on as many dates as you want to but I think the answers are already there.

I don’t have to figure it out today :)

I met him on Hinge. He messaged me and I normally would not go for him but he had a very “kind face” so I gage it a shot. I did bot love our text convo bc he seemed bland, but he was respectful and normal. I also googled him. When he invited me to the event, I thought why not.