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hi chicas, just leaving an update because from my last post there were some people saying I should just delete/block immediately when this guy asked me for a coffee date.
I followed the FDS handbook and said I'm not into those and suggested we do something creative instead - like a restaurant or a museum - and he immediately apologized and booked a reservation in a fancy place.
Well I think I had the best date of my life? He is so polite, so funny and so much more handsome in real life (which is a first bc usually guys only pick old good photos). He complimented me a lot and was super respectful to me.
He offered to push my chair, filled my drinks, and paid for the date (these are all things the FDS pushes you to expect from a HVM). We did went out to a coffee place (haha) because our conversation kept going and going and the restaurant wanted to close. He also paid for them (as in, he rushed immediately to pay).
I am just so happy and getting butterflies. It's been one hard yet of vetting and going on bad dates and learning but I feel good about him and it's great to get this feeling again, from someone who seems to be very caring and generous and sees my worth. Thanks FDS
I’m happy for you sis but it’s important to be aware/cautious of abolishing “marathon” dates (esp the first one), cuz it’s what scrotes use to build intimacy/trust faster. Not saying he’s a scrote of course, but you don’t know that yet. Best of luck!!
I'm glad it went well!
Though be careful, don't let those butterflies cloud your judgment - it's still early days. Too soon to tell if this is who he really is, or just a show he's putting on.
I know, I know... it sucks to think about that, when you just want to be happy. I wish we don't have to be so careful. Unfortunately, men who get their jollies from deceiving women exist.
Keep vetting, and we're all rooting for this to be for real!
Happy you had a nice date and he treated you well. Keep vetting. And, as someone else has mentioned, please reconsider those lengthy early dates.
Sorry Sis but all you did was teach him how to put on a mask and pretend to be hv better.
You're crushing and catching feelings quick - remember to not crush and beware of lovebombing. Remember to act like you're used to all men treating you well and taking you on nice dates (even if that wasn't the case).
Also, don't be extending the dates longer. Limit it to just the first activity that he planned and then leave graciously. If he wants to spend more time with you, let him plan another date.
Don't rush things and keep yourself in check to not get hurt. Beware of him just putting on a hvm
Oh I'm so happy for you! Thank you for the update, I hope it works out!! 🙏
Love this! Enjoy yourself and keep vetting 🧐
Best case scenario he fumbled at the beginning and might be an experienced, So if that’s how it goes and from here it’s great then that’s fair enough but please keep us updated on anything you discover. There’s so much I want to know like what are your respective ages and what information did he share on the date?
Happy for you, but do you really want someone you had to coach/negotiate into a better date? He shouldn’t have offered you coffee in the first place
i always get so shocked when guys think it's ok to offer a coffee date. we don't have to go to an upscale restaurant by any means, but you would think that with the rise of lonely, single men most guys WOULD be offering reservations to fucking ruth's chris to women three times a week to hope for a chance at getting themselves out of the ditch they're in.
Aww this is sooooo cute! I love this
Any updates? This was so cute to read
So happy for you. ☺️ Cheers.