Hey guys, so I was completely off the dating scene after my last experience (needed a break from the rollercoaster!) BUT…
Today, I saw an ad pop up for a site called Mate Machine, claiming it’s for “serious, intelligent singles over 30 looking for real connections.” I figured, why not? I checked out some profiles, and there were actually some great-looking people in my age range!
So, on a total whim, I signed up, and within 20 minutes, I was chatting with this charming Australian guy who just moved to my area! We hit it off right away and have been laughing about everything.
We even set up a date tonight at a cozy local Italian spot for some spaghetti bolognese (my fave)! He’s been calling me “darling,” which I think is standard for Aussies? Any Aussies here to confirm? Either way, I find it kinda cute.
Meeting him in a couple of hours! Excited but also nervous—who knows how it’ll go, but here’s hoping! 😅
OP... you posted recently that your bf of 5 years proposed, but you didn't love the ring.... ?
I lived in Aus for two years...
Be very careful with these guys. They are stuck in 1950s American thinking with how they treat women. Misogyny doesn't even begin to describe what I saw there. Yes, it is worse than what we experience today in the states.
Unfortunately for us, they are also very hot, witty, and charming. 🤣 Just be careful, take no shit, and don't let the charm fool you. If he starts fucking you around call him "mate" or a "bogan" and tell him to f off. They will have decent table manners, but they generally treat women like absolute shit.
It always blew my mind when I saw them treating some of the most beautiful women I've ever seen in real life like total dirt...
Also, don't have drinks. You will end up more drunk than you've ever been in your life and this guy won't even feel the hangover tomorrow, meanwhile you will be half dead. They are seasoned drinkers beyond belief.
Lastly, chlamydia is a very normal thing for Aussies to experience and spread, so do not get sexual with this one early on.
Editing to add: it's not normal for them to call someone "darling" right away unless they are trying to swoon them into bed. They are funny as hell, but they generally view women as wet holes that they will pump and dump. They don't tend to get serious about women at all. I watched my Ozzie girlfriends there (I was engaged to and living there with my American fiance at the time) go through things even American pickmes wouldn't consider for a second and I watched these girls (and all of their friends group and male friends) go through round after round of contracting chlamydia. I guess it is normal there, which was hard to wrap my head around.
My brother was stationed there in the Navy for a short while, and they had two days to explore. Their Sargeant told them to use a condom because "they will contract things they cannot name and will never be able to cure."
I'd really vet this dude more before you meet up with him in such a short time. He's viewing you as easy pickings. I'd make the first date a stop at an STD clinic for testing.
Be careful he isn't using you for the greencard,