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Hi Ladies,
Have any of you ever experienced sexual assault where a man knowingly transmitted something incurable like Herpes or HIV? One LVM raped and sexually assaulted me on a date..he stealthed too and caused me to contract herpes type 1. Im sure he knew he was having an active outbreak at the time and out of spite was hoping I would catch it from him and I did. I'm sure a lot of sociopathic men do this intentionalky to destroy and harm women. Luckily it's not as as severe as type 2 meaning maybe one to no outbreaks in a year, but it's still lifelong. Luckily I'm childfree and don't want to ever have kids but I know herpes can infect a newborn and possibly cause serious injury or even death to a child. STDs affect women so much worse than men and they know this but don't give a sh*t if they cause a woman to become infertile as long as they can get their d*ck wet. Experiencing this helped start my celibacy journey and also for a number or other reasons. For those of you who are celibate, what was the main reason for going down that path for yourself?
I feel so sorry for the women who've experienced catching an STD from a man who knows he's infected and knowingly spreads a serious lifelong disease. Now of course I'll be disclosing this if I ever do break my 4 plus years celibacy to a new man but I'm hoping he'll be a HVM since most would assume I'd slept around if I have something even though I was assaulted and it was rape by a sociopathic narcissist who knowingly spread it, they wouldn't be understanding at all most likely. Sociopaths and narcissists willingly transmit STDs, including HIV to women. I met one malignant narcissist who said he hoped he'd catch HIV (he slept around with women and men) so that he could spread it to women, which in reality is murder and some states now charge for attempted murder when someone knowingly infects someone else with HIV. I feel a lot of shame around this but hoping the right guy who wants to marry me will stick around and work with me through it together.
I am so sorry to hear this happened to you. I’ve been celibate for a year and few months now and stopped dating all together because I want to focus on myself and not waste my time on LVMs. Dating apps just take so much time and it’s a waste. I would rather find someone as I’m growing and evolving who is a good person than waste my energy on LVMs. I have never done casual dating or hook ups in the past as I’m reserved by nature but I want to protect myself … I’m not even going to let anyone hold my hand until they put consistent effort to show they want to court me. Heal yourself and your heart after this traumatic experience and enjoy your life ♥️♥️♥️
I’m so sorry you were the victim of multiple, horrific crimes. You did not deserve any of it, none of that was your fault, and I’m so proud of you for speaking out and helping other survivors. 💪
I’ve been celibate for nearly a year, since I first learned from the leaked Supreme Court brief that we would be forced to give birth even in the case of rape, incest, or birth defects and risks incompatible with the life and/or health of mother and fetus. Not worth the downside risk. I can take care of my needs without a man, and all is well.
I am so sorry and heartbroken this happened to you 💚 you are an incredibly brave woman and I am sending you all my love.
My ex cheated on me in my 3rd trimester of pregnancy with my first son and gave me herpes (HSV2). He came clean about it and I got tested. I never have had an outbreak but I spoke to my OB and he had me do a blood test. It was devastating and this was 4 weeks before I gave birth. Luckily, I needed a c-section anyway so there wasn't risk of sheding the virus from the birth canal to the baby during delivery but I did have to be on anti-virals.
I think about in the future if I ever decided to re-marry and having to explain to a vetted, HVM I have herpes and it just makes me never even want to bother entering the dating world again.
I’m so saddened this happened to you. Men who commit these kinds of crimes against women are absolute monsters. Sadly, I can see this type of behavior becoming more common as men fall deeper into pornsick depravity. So many LVM will weaponize anything they can to hurt us.
I’ve been celibate for more than 6 years, and I have no regrets. I’m in my late 30s and sometimes feel like I’m missing out, but I know deep down that I’m really not. Sexually, women provide far more pleasure to men than they do us, and the risks/effort aren’t worth it to me rn. I’ve found celibacy to be empowering and wish it were encouraged more.
I'm so sorry sis. Yes, I was SA'd through stealthing and got HPV through it. Not terrible, but a bit scary and it took years to clear it. I've been celibate for almost 2 years, since my ex, because I didn't want to risk getting an STD again. Similar to other commenter... I won't even let a man kiss me these days, I'd have to know him and trust him.
I am so sorry this happened to you.
With herpes specifically, most people do not even know they have it. It can be transmitted even when having sex with a condom, and genital HSV1 is most commonly spread through oral sex. Ask me how I know… (I have GHSV1, just like you).
Unfortunately, HSV1 (which more than half of people in the US have) and HSV2 (which 1 in 6 people in the US have) have an extremely nasty stigma that makes getting infected and having an outbreak a psychologically traumatizing experience.
Dealing with the trauma and distress of being SA’d and then having a primary herpes outbreak is just an incredibly painful thing to go through. My heart goes out to you. I hope you are taking care of yourself and know you are not alone.
As for celibacy, if you do decide to become sexually active, a HVM will not care. People are seriously uneducated about herpes. The first outbreak is tough, but it’s easily managed with anti-virals. You will be OK ❤️