They really are clueless aren't they?

He knows. He's negging her to make her feel stupid and paranoid for being precautious (like the man who put zipties on women's doors as a "joke").

He probably wanted to spike her- that's why he got so annoyed .

Never assume a man "doesn't know" or "doesn't get it" that how you get got.

I used to bartend and I had to take a state-mandated training that discussed watching out for your customers, spiking drinks, etc. So I would have higher hopes that a bartender (even a male) would understand these things happen. Wow

They're not clueless. Stop acting like these dudes are all stupid.

They know.

My thoughts on this are twofold. On one hand, what a clueless idiot.

On the other hand, my dad’s drink actually WAS spiked, in his 50s, in a bar he’d been going to for his entire adult life. They don’t worry about such things, but if they weren’t so egotistical as to feel utterly invincible, they might realize that they *should. I’m not denying that females get their drinks spiked far more often, but such drugs can be used to incapacitate anyone, and the motive can be anything from sexual assault to robbery to a plain desire to hurt and humiliate.

This made the hairs on the back of my neck stand up. That kind of attitude from that side of the bar makes me wonder if he’d dose an empty glass intending it for her upon her return.