The one they replaced us with

Yes they do that and also throw less attractive women in your face or even get with one after you just to play a mind game and make you feel even more worthless after they violate you within the sh*tuationship.

Men thoroughly believe that hot women need to be knocked down a peg. They do not treat it like a gift when they land one, but rather a challenge to crush them. They believe they've always been treated well because of their looks (like you do), but what happens when they all believe that? The girl gets treated like shit over and over. From both women and men.

I've actually heard this from their own mouths a million times over in a million different ways.

Good looking women do not have it better.

I've definitely noticed this. Ofcourse all men have different techniques. However ive noticed since a recent glow up that alot of men will not compliment me or will try negging me.

When I didn't wear makeup, didn't shave, wore unflattering clothes, didn't do my nails, had messy hair. Men almost never insulted me or negged me, they were neutral. I was either meh or attractive enough to them. I mean they would neg sometimesrarely but not like this. Infact men will even sometimes compliment you as they think your insecure and never get compliments so they do it as a part of lovebombing.

Now they neg, rarely compliment and I know for a fact I look better now. I guess they feel insecure. I guess they have wanted to knock me down several pegs. They assume you already have heard compliments so they don't compliment you infact they try insult you.

There's 2 types of men those that insult "unattractive" women and those that insult attractive women. The first is entitled and the second is insecure.

Yep they are going to treat the next one eben worse than they did you cause you got away! They're going to take that anger out on her.

Yes, for Narc men and emotional manipulators and abusers, that is the case and I would say even outside of that, that is mainly the case in most instances. However, it can happen that if the dude meets a woman he truly loves, he can sometimes stop all of the bullshit and grow up reeeeal fast. It just turns out, he didn't have "real love" for the first girl he bullshitted and toyed with. Not saying it happens often, but it does happen.

I don't believe they treat the next woman any better and magically are in love now. They treat her the same as you, she just tolerates BS and abuse and you didn't!

You've heard of men using women as placeholders, right? It's all over in FDS stuff and in real life. Not saying all the time, but yes they do it.

But the real point is to stop being wrapped up in comparisons and in who he is dating now. You shouldn't know anything about any of it. Focus on yourself.

Idk. To me ugly is extremely unkempt/unhealthy. Bad hygiene, massively over- or underweight. That's ugly to me. Everything else is relative. I love the way Anya Taylor-Joy looks, my male cousin thinks she looks like an alien.

I'm the same, only people with bad hygiene or selfimposed (morbidly obese), drug addicts, alcoholics (bad looks due to a bad habit) I'd consider "ugly". Anyone who puts a effort in hygiene and grooming, haircut, beard maintained even clothing style can look decent.

However men have a different idea, I think ugly for men is just not being "conventionally attractive ". That's all it means to them whereas for women we usually base it on things like hygiene, personality,grooming etc or that's what social conditioning has taught us.

I definitely think men care more about a woman's appearance than even her hygiene. Men would choose a very attractive woman with bad hygiene over a "ugly" woman with immaculate hygiene. They value one thing looks and sexual" openness".

I'm sorry that happened to you. It feels like if we give anything to a man ever, they use and abuse it and then to cheat on us with a downgrade. That's how weak minded they are instead of working on themselves to rise to our level which they'd do if they really loved you.

I don't think they see us as equal humans, just as means to an end.

If she is deliberately homewrecking it's totally valid.

A home-wrecker to me is a woman who pursues a partnered man, and thats not what we're talking about. This is about an ex's new gf.

But we shouldn't compete with any woman. If my man is vulnerable to being "stolen" by a home-wrecker, then she can have him.

My ex cheated on me with his ex, who is now his gf. So in this case, yes. A new gf, who had nothing to do with us, only has my pity as she will find out what a loser he is. Then she can always reach out.

Us cf women have to be extra protective of ourselves when vetting because there are plenty of scrotes out there who want to "put us in our place." Never tell a man you don't want kids; He will take that as a challenge. I'm also jaded by plenty of men who claimed they didn't want kids, but really they meant they didn't want kids "yet." I now don't trust any man near my body unless he has a vasectomy.

Also CF here and same

What about the men who want vasectomies but still date a single mother? Maybe they sre preying on her because they think she'll tolerate more BS than a CF woman like myself? Make it make sense!!