Ok today morning I was scrolling thru the old FDS on reddit and was reading the post about no BS advice and it mentioned that to not do too much for your male friends. I had gone for a urban sketching session with my guy friend, altho we are good friends we have a complicated history as his friend is also my ex. I try stay away from that topic, we were discussing something about his birthday and i totally forgot about it and i told ill get him something, even though i offered it, the gift suggestion is lil expensive and it felt like a gf kinda gift? anyways thank god i read fds again cuz why was I going gf stuff for a man who is not my bf? I will keep things amicable by giving a lower range 'friend-only' kinda gift, cuz he's good friend but I am also a lil broke this month, i just got the ickiest feeling while ordering the gift so i cancelled so something in my conscience makes sense even though I cannot name it right now. Did I do the right thing?
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You did the right thing. Protect your dignity at all costs.
I personally do not believe men can be friends and do not keep male friends for about 20 years. Men ignore women they do not find attractive, they do not exist for them. If they talk to you they want something and that is sex...if your friend is friends with your ex it is possible he is an orbiter waiting for a chance to get into your pants.
Speaking from personal experiences and I even heard it from men themselves.
Girl I wouldn't even have ordered a lower price one. You spending your hard earned girl dollars in this economy when you can't afford it? You know men don't even care about gifts right? Most of them if you look at their posts will say they don't even want one because when they want something they buy it for themselves. If he asks (he won't) just say you are having finance issues, but next year...haha!
If you re-read then you'd know we don't support having male "friends" to begin with.
I wish some women on here would take the time to write their posts in a way that is readable and not like a middle schooler texting on an app. Forums are not texting apps. Forums are meant to encourage engagement, and for that to happen, posts need to be grammatically correct and visually easy to read.
Poor grammar gives off an impression of low value.
This was a headache to get through.
EXAMPLE:
Ok, today morning I was scrolling through the old FDS on Reddit and was reading a post about no-BS advice. It mentioned not doing too much for your male friends. I had gone for an urban sketching session with my guy friend. Although we are good friends, we have a complicated history since his friend is also my ex. I try to stay away from that topic.
We were discussing something about his birthday, and I totally forgot about it and told him I’d get him something. Even though I offered, the gift suggestion was a little expensive, and it felt like a “girlfriend” kind of gift. Anyways, thank god I read FDS again, because why was I doing “girlfriend stuff” for a man who is not my boyfriend?
I will keep things amicable by giving a lower-range, “friend-only” kind of gift because he’s a good friend, but I’m also a little broke this month. I just got the ickiest feeling while ordering the gift, so I canceled it. Something in my conscience makes sense, even though I cannot name it right now.
Did I do the right thing?
You lost me at “male friend” 😔
You did the right thing. Everytime I bought a gift for a man I wasn't in a serious relationship with, I regretted it.