I'm still dating the same guy as before (2x combat veteran). I recently played at a weekend long festival. He showed up. I enjoy participating in festivals I'm performing at. But, going to concerts and weekend long festivals I'm not a part of is a waste of my time and money. In addition, we've only known each other a little over a month, and from my experience vacations and trips with guys suck. This guy in particular has a dog he rarely likes to part with so that will be a huge headache. He'll also want to truck camp which is never fun not to have a shower or running . How can I tactfully decline out of state festivals and trips? I'm looking for a script of some sort that I can use.
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The fact that you are worried about how to say no to this very no-worthy proposal demonstrates that a power imbalance already exists. This is concerning.
Also, as a veteran, and someone who married and divorced a combat veteran: tread carefully.
“I don’t like camping” and “I don’t like to go to festivals unless it’s for my job” are good ways to get the point across.
I agree with the other commenters that if you don’t feel you can be blunt, then you’re not in a good situation with this guy. I’d be very wary of dating an ex-military guy, as well (I wouldn't do it at all, but I know that not everyone has the same viewpoint that I do).
Explain him going to a festival you aren't working is like someone with an offiice job going into their office to hang out on a day off. Also just say you won't want to camp in his truck.
“Nah, what else you got?”