FDS has helped me become more assertive in prioritizing my needs and wellbeing. I appreciate that FDS truly advocates for girls and women, and doesn’t attempt to appease the patriarchy. Women have been so thoroughly conditioned to cater to men, to put men’s needs/comfort first. I’m in my late 30s and have screwed myself over many times by helping men while they ended up setting me back. I do want to maintain my feminine nurturing aspect, so it’s a matter of directing it at myself and away from ungrateful and unworthy men.
FDS is an empowering and practical set of principles, and I can’t wait for it to go mainstream.
Most men are so much more work than they are worth. I feel like most of the time, there isn't even a break-even point. Women almost always end up with the short end of the stick.
A Queen is not judged by how she looks but how she moves. I’m a Queen of my own world and the defender and provider I need in life. I’m feminine because I’m born a girl. I value real women not trans. And there is nothing wrong with that.
I’ve learned to value respect above love or anything men has to offer.
I no longer tolerate, I walk away. If one warning doesn’t make a man stop then nothing will and I will leave.
There is nothing wrong with wanting the good But not the bad so men must act accordingly or it’s over. I’m not going to raise you or build you.
If you can’t or can no longer be the partner I deserve it’s time to go because I didn’t sign up for this.
Before FDS I was always worried that this might be very selfish. But this is self preserving and it’s within my birthright time be this way.
That having been treated like crap by men doesn’t mean anything is wrong with me and it’s just how most men are. I learned to take it less personally.
and that I am not crazy! Any beliefs I have challenged that are mainstream and not fds aligned, I was gaslit and dogpiled on and villianized for in the past. I really thought before that I was the only sane person in the world and so frustrated at feeling silenced all the time.
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Feb 24, 2023
celibacy - as a consequence of understanding the unfair dating dynamics for straight women
Yeah celibacy is the way to be! LVM look like a deer caught in headlights when you tell them you're celibate 😂😂 One still even tried to talk to me after I told him surprise surprise but by then he was blocked and deleted for some BS he did to me.
Don't settle for scraps, because we don't have to. Focus on leveling up your own life instead of giving your time and energy building up men who will never give that nurturing energy back to you. Break free of the lies that patriarchy tells about women, because all of them are actually mens' projections about themselves.It's invaluable advice, and yet so simple. I wish all women could hold FDS values in their hearts. The world would be a better place.
FDS is my refuge, where the reality of life as women isn't watered down, and I'm not gaslit at every turn by both men and women. It's where I can expect to read/hear the truth and, even better, how to revel in it all the same.
On the surface, FDS seems like a miserable place to the uninformed onlooker. For me, FDS is so clearly about raising women to their rightful places as worthy of being in this world, their jobs, their relationships, their families, their communities, and in their god damn countries just because they exist. Nothing more.
I already held FDS views about life but hadn't had much experience applying FDS to dating, so I've been taught a lot, and these are skills for a much better life!
I used to believe that being in a romantic relationship is a reflection of one's quality as a person. Like you must be a really good person if someone else "love" you. It took a toll on my self esteem because in my past relationships I always get dumped, no matter how hard I try to save that relationship. I became a doormat but somehow still not enough to keep me in a relationship. On this site I learned that being in a relationship doesnt equal being loved. Hard truth, but freeing. Also romantic relationships is not the only valuable connection between humans, so I began to put more effort to cultivate friendships, pay more attention to family members, etc. I don't need to be a doormat to be loved and I can have standards.
To me, FDS is a framework that shapes my approach to life and relationships. It has taught me that I am valuable, but I should continue levelling up. I am responsible for myself and any dependents I choose to care for. I will do what I can to improve myself and the state of mankind. I will do what I can to make others around me feel their worth. I will walk away from any person or institution that disrespects me, my boundaries, or treats me as less than. I will not waste time on anyone or anything that does not benefit me or the humane causes that are important to me. I will never compromise my safety. I will enjoy this life to the fullest. A lot of my destiny is under my control.
It's a valuable companionship of non pick-me women. It is something that's so hard to find outside of this community.
I agree with what others pointed out about helping prioritizing self and decentering men, reverse the gaslighting by society, help to heal existing trauma by validation.
Women are the value. Patriarchy was built by males to keep women down, but, once we realize this, it's our task and duty to turn things back around. FDS is a guide towards empowerment in relationships. It's also a powerful tool for self-esteem building - every time I say no to some low value bullshit, I'm reaffirming to myself in a practical way that I'm better than that and that I deserve good things in my life ❤️
FDS is the only place to get realistic dating advice that’s actually written by women without the influence of capitalism or patriarchy or faux feminist guilt demanding that I mother the whole of society. It gave me permission to reject men on the basis of “just because” instead of feeling like I’m trying to prove to a court that it’s a justified rejection.
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FDS has helped me become more assertive in prioritizing my needs and wellbeing. I appreciate that FDS truly advocates for girls and women, and doesn’t attempt to appease the patriarchy. Women have been so thoroughly conditioned to cater to men, to put men’s needs/comfort first. I’m in my late 30s and have screwed myself over many times by helping men while they ended up setting me back. I do want to maintain my feminine nurturing aspect, so it’s a matter of directing it at myself and away from ungrateful and unworthy men.
FDS is an empowering and practical set of principles, and I can’t wait for it to go mainstream.
FDS has been more useful than therapy for me.
Practical and operational advice
Realistic and cautious.
Always put women interests first
Very rare in today's society.
Mostly, confirmation that everything I ever suspected about men and hetero relationships is true.
A Queen is not judged by how she looks but how she moves. I’m a Queen of my own world and the defender and provider I need in life. I’m feminine because I’m born a girl. I value real women not trans. And there is nothing wrong with that.
I’ve learned to value respect above love or anything men has to offer.
I no longer tolerate, I walk away. If one warning doesn’t make a man stop then nothing will and I will leave.
There is nothing wrong with wanting the good But not the bad so men must act accordingly or it’s over. I’m not going to raise you or build you.
If you can’t or can no longer be the partner I deserve it’s time to go because I didn’t sign up for this.
Before FDS I was always worried that this might be very selfish. But this is self preserving and it’s within my birthright time be this way.
Men don't make life better. Prioritise myself
That having been treated like crap by men doesn’t mean anything is wrong with me and it’s just how most men are. I learned to take it less personally.
and that I am not crazy! Any beliefs I have challenged that are mainstream and not fds aligned, I was gaslit and dogpiled on and villianized for in the past. I really thought before that I was the only sane person in the world and so frustrated at feeling silenced all the time.
celibacy - as a consequence of understanding the unfair dating dynamics for straight women
safety - as a consequence of celibacy
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Don't settle for scraps, because we don't have to. Focus on leveling up your own life instead of giving your time and energy building up men who will never give that nurturing energy back to you. Break free of the lies that patriarchy tells about women, because all of them are actually mens' projections about themselves. It's invaluable advice, and yet so simple. I wish all women could hold FDS values in their hearts. The world would be a better place.
FDS is my refuge, where the reality of life as women isn't watered down, and I'm not gaslit at every turn by both men and women. It's where I can expect to read/hear the truth and, even better, how to revel in it all the same.
On the surface, FDS seems like a miserable place to the uninformed onlooker. For me, FDS is so clearly about raising women to their rightful places as worthy of being in this world, their jobs, their relationships, their families, their communities, and in their god damn countries just because they exist. Nothing more.
I already held FDS views about life but hadn't had much experience applying FDS to dating, so I've been taught a lot, and these are skills for a much better life!
Make choices about your life based on how the world IS, not on how you wish it would be…
I used to believe that being in a romantic relationship is a reflection of one's quality as a person. Like you must be a really good person if someone else "love" you. It took a toll on my self esteem because in my past relationships I always get dumped, no matter how hard I try to save that relationship. I became a doormat but somehow still not enough to keep me in a relationship. On this site I learned that being in a relationship doesnt equal being loved. Hard truth, but freeing. Also romantic relationships is not the only valuable connection between humans, so I began to put more effort to cultivate friendships, pay more attention to family members, etc. I don't need to be a doormat to be loved and I can have standards.
To me, FDS is a framework that shapes my approach to life and relationships. It has taught me that I am valuable, but I should continue levelling up. I am responsible for myself and any dependents I choose to care for. I will do what I can to improve myself and the state of mankind. I will do what I can to make others around me feel their worth. I will walk away from any person or institution that disrespects me, my boundaries, or treats me as less than. I will not waste time on anyone or anything that does not benefit me or the humane causes that are important to me. I will never compromise my safety. I will enjoy this life to the fullest. A lot of my destiny is under my control.
It's a valuable companionship of non pick-me women. It is something that's so hard to find outside of this community.
I agree with what others pointed out about helping prioritizing self and decentering men, reverse the gaslighting by society, help to heal existing trauma by validation.
Women are the value. Patriarchy was built by males to keep women down, but, once we realize this, it's our task and duty to turn things back around. FDS is a guide towards empowerment in relationships. It's also a powerful tool for self-esteem building - every time I say no to some low value bullshit, I'm reaffirming to myself in a practical way that I'm better than that and that I deserve good things in my life ❤️
FDS is the only place to get realistic dating advice that’s actually written by women without the influence of capitalism or patriarchy or faux feminist guilt demanding that I mother the whole of society. It gave me permission to reject men on the basis of “just because” instead of feeling like I’m trying to prove to a court that it’s a justified rejection.